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Ok so...

SIL who is an letting agent tells me that she doesn't give certain people tenancy because she "doesn't like the look of them"

Her words... well I showed some women round the flat the other day and when I got back to the office I said she's not having it I don't like her...

There was also another girl that was young wanting to rent a flat MY SIL had looked her up on Facebook and read her status' saw one that said OMG I'm so wasted and was like she's not having it....

We started talking about this and I said it's discrimination. Just because she got drunk and put it on Facebook doesn't mean she would be a bad tenant. Her reply was so what does it matter to you we just told her that the tenant didn't want someone young in the property (again I believe this is a terrible if not illegal thing to do?)
So here comes hour long discussion (argument ) where I'm trying to tell her you can't discriminate against someone just because you don't like them or the look of them. Like what gives you the right to make that judgement of someone else? Her replies where we'll I'm still going to do it what you going to do report me.. not understanding or accepting at all what discrimination is. This i might add got me rather piss ed off.this is followed by her sticking her fingers in her ears and saying blah blah blah. So i said im really starting to dislike you for this so she kicks of has a paddy and storms to the front door (like a child) saying well you didnt like me anywayyyy !So this all ends with me telling her to fuck off out my house.

A little background of my SIL. she is young herself has a job working for a family member and we'll gets "special" treatment for that fact.. I think she's on a power trip and thinks she runs the joint... but she has also lived a very sheltered life only ever worked for family so no real world experience in that sense only one relationship the one she is in now. And can have a childish look on things/come across as a bit of an idiot but not in a struggles with intelligence kind of way. I might also add that she is one of those girls who wasn't the cool kid in school if you know what I mean and she always seems to be putting down young girls who like to wear lots of make up or whatever and I've assumed it's because it makes her self feel better? I don't know though I'm just guessing but I've tried to explain to her that just because someone where's lots of make up it doesn't make them a bad person or a slug. Anyway hopefully you get the picture.

So basically I want to know aibu to try and get the point of discrimination across to her? Is it ok for her to do that as an agent because from a business point of view it makes sense?

Please help me get my head round this.. its nearly Christmas and I could do without a family feud!

If she's a letting 'agent' by definition she's acting on behalf of someone else as is her aunt. The decision is really theirs not your SIL's or her aunt's. I think you're not too far off the mark with the word 'discrimination' as what your SIL is doing is unreasonable.

Because the tenant drinks alcohol she can't keep her home clean? Oh dear! FWIW the sort of person that makes that sort of staggering generalisation could easily discriminate in terms of race or religion as ignorance is ignorance.

Think you should maybe have kept your opinion to yourself though as you can't argue with stupid. I would avoid the topic in future - pick your battles.

Oops!

Somehow, despite the fact that my post was measured (and left unanswered) I feel a tad despoiled now!

Sorry OP - a) this is aibu, most people accept that opinions will be less polished and polite b) we only have what you type to go by - we don't know your SIL (or you) c) if the responses you get don't suit you, it probably isn't wise to type 'don't you dare tell me...' as you tend to only support the opinion that you are BVU.

Your latter posts make you sound quite unpleasant to your SIL - I have one I despise, so I know how that feels, but would try to describe my utter distaste of her in a way that hides explains my derangement where she is concerned.

Don't let this place get to you... it isn't real, remember!

OP you asked if YWBU in what you said and in what you thought about what your SIL was doing. Posters have answered both those questions. No-one is judging you as a horrible person. You could be a paragon of virtue in every other aspect of your life! We're only commenting on this one example that you provided where you seemed very judgemental of your SIL whilst criticising her for being judgemental. If you know that you're right it seems odd to post in AIBU.

Trusting her gut instinct is part of her job and will be what sets her apart from other letting agents.

I can't believe you had an hour long argument with her, basically telling her how to do her job

The fact it ended with you telling her to 'fuck off out of your house', makes it even more bizarre.

Yes, I would definitely apologise if I were you and perhaps change the subject if her work comes up again in conversation.

YABU to call this discrimination. It isn't. It's vetting the suitability of prospective tenants and it's what she gets paid to do.

YABU and bloody rude really to take it upon yourself to 'educate' her about how to do her job properly.

she may have spoken in a disrespectful about them to way you - but her professional behaviour is actually pretty much industry standard and she does not need to 'get to know them' - just make a prediction about their potential long term behaviour. You are not just naive but are alos being massively hypocritical on here about her never being one f the cool kids etc. You are actually very unreasonable