AIBU to be so angry at neighbour

[Minnie911]

When we first moved in to our flat in summer DP was speaking to neighbour and she asked DP if our flat was a council tenancy - ours is private, neighbours in council - exact same flats.
Anyway since we have lived here said neighbour is only ever at her flat 3 hours ish total per week and maybe 2 nights every fortnight - so obviously spends most of her time at her partners...I do not know this but have seen her in town walking a dog which definatley doesn't live at her flat and I know she works at a local company 9-5 type hours workplace.
Anyway she is a single woman paying half the rent for the same flat and 4 of us are piled in the same flat with no money for extras - and I repetitevly have delivery men at the door with parcels from clothes shops for her.
Aibu to be soo angry? Can I report her or is she doing nothing wrong? There are no council properties in our area and she's not even living there!!

Report her for what exactly?

Ok so let's assume she is staying with a partner at their house...what would happen if they split up? Would you prefer it if she were homeless with nowhere to go?

Envy is the thief of joy.

Anyway she is a single woman paying half the rent for the same flat and 4 of us are piled in the same flat with no money for extras

Smacks of jealousy to me!

She is doing nothing wrong. Really!

What is she doing that is reportable?

You presumably made choices that got you where you are right now. They are not her responsibility and wrecking what she has won't cure whatever is wrong with your situation.

Never a truer word, Grockle.

Let me get this straight, Minnie You reckon that people in council flats can't have relationships? Or is it that partners must stay over at the council flat instead of their own, possibly more luxurious, home? What if both partners are council tenants? Yikes! Problems!!

What else can't they do, if they've got to sleep at home nearly every night? Go on holiday? Travel for work? Visit friends overnight?

How many nights a week must council tenants stay away from home before forfeiting their flat? What guarantee does the council give them that the relationship or job won't go wrong, do you think, leaving the tenant homeless again?

The majority of council/HA flats won't accept pets. That's the most likely reason for her staying at the boyfriend's and walking the dog.

Or does the council also provide kennelling services for tenants in relationships with pet owners, so they won't have to stay at their partner's with the pet?

Maybe she does charity dog walking? Are you not supposed to if you live in a council flat?

Op you are a busybody... Not your business

Worried now ... I might have to go into hospital. Will Minnie the council make me give up my flat if I'm not sleeping in it for a while?

YABU to be angry at her. Be angry at the lack of social housing. It should be available to everyone, including people who don't spend much time at home.

I really didn't think I was BU when I started this thread - I'm annoyed at a perfectly good flat laying empty constantly. But thank you for your replys I now realise that I am being unreasonable and no it has nothing to do with me and makes no difference to my life what so ever and I will enjoy my peaceful neighbour, thanks everyone for your messages.

I think you need to stop stalking your neighbour and let go of the hate. Everyone will prosper from this.

I do love a happy AIBU ending :)

Oooh, me too! , Minnie, and a

What Owl says, too. That's the real problem.

I'm definitely going to use this as a starting point for looking at things differently - I've got stuck in the way of thinking in this way and need to change that so thanks all

Awesome.

wish my neighbour and his bloody yappy barking dog would bugger off for most of the week.
I envy you OP

If she's claiming housing benefit and council tax credit she has to stay there at least 5 nights a week in my town if not and it gets reported they'll make you pay the rent.

She won't lose her house though.. Sorry?

I was away from my house for a couple of months after having my twins the council were made aware and they were fine with it.

Glad to read your latest posts Minnie . It will make your life much happier

Minnie you will definitely glean more satisfaction from your life by taking a different stance as you propose. Well done - I wish you much contentment in the future. x

We had some friends come over today for our Christmas get-together.

It's likely we'll all be very busy from now on and not able to meet up before Christmas.

One of the things we ended up chatting about were their neighbours from three or four doors down.

Apparently these neighbours came and went but didn't seem to stay over in the house, which they were renting privately.

The police have just raided it and found every room filled with cannabis plants.

It made me think of this thread. Perhaps that's what your neighbour is up to

I understand your frustration, OP.

I felt like that when I met people who live in council housing yet have the money to holiday in Florida and have decent cars. Btw, this is london where there is a severe shortage!

Extremely selfish when there are whole families living in a tiny cramped hostel room for years- through sheer bad luck.

Where did you live when homeless OP?

still, there's nothing you can do, I just wish people would wake up to this and life tenancies would end and social housing only go to those that need it.