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dds 3rd birthday.

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zobey · 12/12/2014 14:37

So dd is 3 in Jan, and I've got her everything she wanted for Xmas. I've got her for her bday, a tablet kids one cost 42.00, desk cost 19.99, duplo cost 19.99, dressing up trunk 24.99, two dresses I've had made for her 26 each. And a play house cost 179.99. I'll get her craft bits to go with the desk but do you think that's enough or am I being tight. I'm also going to get her the frozen wand that sings that she wants that's 12.99.

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notagainffffffffs · 12/12/2014 20:29

Mmm a but stingy yeah. Are you not going to get her any clothes or shoes? What about jewellery?

notagainffffffffs · 12/12/2014 20:29

Or maybe a pony?

ShootTheMoon · 12/12/2014 20:54

Congratulations on a splendidly crass post OP. Points for effort.

MidniteScribbler · 12/12/2014 22:03

All the thought of that plastic rubbish that won't last much past the end of the holiday season puts my teeth on edge.

The only real decent item is the cubby, but why not spend the 300 pounds on getting a good quality properly constructed one in your backyard? It will last a lot longer. Those little tykes ones don't last past early childhood until they grow out of them, whereas a well constructed wooden one will last until they are too old to want to play in them anymore.

arethereanyleftatall · 12/12/2014 22:15

You're a twat.
Either you're serious, in which case you need to seriously readdress the amount of awareness you have of the uk today.
Or you're joking, in which case what an unkind thing to do.

ThePinkOcelot · 12/12/2014 22:19

I think you are being tight actually. Instead of the kids tablet I think you should have bought her an ipad. I'm sure she could also do with an iphone 6!

Summerisle1 · 12/12/2014 22:22

At not yet 3 I'm amazed she has such a precise knowledge of what she wants!

But clearly, since you've bought enough for several three year olds you are not "tight". To be honest, even if you can easily afford all these presents, it's still a completely ludicrous amount of stuff.

Hoppinggreen · 12/12/2014 22:24

Why? Just why?

Summerisle1 · 12/12/2014 22:28

My grandmother would have applied one of her favourite sayings to the OP: "She knows the price of everything and the value of nothing".

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fishandlilacs · 12/12/2014 22:35

Hello zobey.
You do realise you are doing your daughter damage?
Your dd will benefit for less not more. Her future will benefit if you put some if that money away for a house deposit or a car or university fees. But she'll never make it to uni because she won't have any imagination, creativity, resourcefulness or idea how to live in the real world. Because its all done for her.
Not just because of the materialism. You are her role model. You alone are responsible for the kind if person she will become. You are limiting her to a pink fluffy imagination less life. You make me feel ill.

WD41 · 12/12/2014 22:36

It does sound a bit tight. You've only got her one Frozen bit of tat toy, you definitely need to get a few more of those or she's likely to be disappointed

shelfontheelf · 12/12/2014 22:36

Really really tight. Obvs.

Bulbasaur · 12/12/2014 22:39

You didn't get her the Frozen Castle. Her birthday will be ruined.

SavoyCabbage · 12/12/2014 22:39

Why are the prices in the post? I would never say 'I'm getting dd a bowl of cereal. £3.20.'

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Bulbasaur · 12/12/2014 22:45

Not just because of the materialism. You are her role model. You alone are responsible for the kind if person she will become. You are limiting her to a pink fluffy imagination less life. You make me feel ill.

Not necessarily. If OP has the budget to blow, why not? I got some expensive stuff growing up from my parents, still do now and I didn't turn out materialistic or helpless. Got my own job and everything, and excel at plenty of creative nifty DIY type projects.

I know you really want spoiled rich kids to have some sort of disadvantage to make you feel better for not having a bigger income, but the fact that their parents have more money actually (and forgive the pun) affords them far more advantages than kids that are less well off. There's lots of happy, successful, rich people out there. What matters is how she raises her kid outside the material possessions. You can't really tell that from the goady original post.

More over, a 3 year old has no concept of money or material worth. If you got her individually wrapped boxes from the pound shop, her DD would think it's more than only a few expensive gifts. It's just the way kids operate.

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msgrinch · 12/12/2014 23:28

yawn

ilovesooty · 13/12/2014 00:01

It seems that the child normally has about 1k spent on her. Unbelievable.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 13/12/2014 00:15

OP, please stop putting the prices of your DD's presents in your posts. It's unbelievably crass and frankly desperately attention seeking.

It makes no difference if her Wendy House cost 30 quid or 200 quid. Not to us. Probably not to your DD either . Only to you. If you keep on like this though, price will matter to her
eventually, as you will tech her

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 13/12/2014 00:20

Ah OP, it's loads, your DD will be delighted .

Iloveredvelvetcake · 13/12/2014 00:21

WIBU to ask where the dressing up box was from OP, been looking for one for ages. Seems a reasonable price.Grin

NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 13/12/2014 00:29

Tight as a badger's arse OP.
Why so mean this year?

NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 13/12/2014 00:35

Tell me more fish