to have lost faith in CM due to "white" lies to Ofsted

[Totempig]

I have been using a CM for the last 2 years for my 5yo and 2yo. I've been happy with her and the kids love her, but there have been a few things that I've been uncomfortable about, mainly that she seems a little untrustworthy with little things eg. I have caught her out in a few little lies before, like saying that she did a certain activity with my kids, which my 5yo insists that they didn't do, and stuff like telling the school that her daughter was sick when she just wanted to spend the day with her grandparents. Nothing major but just makes me feel that she finds it easy to be dishonest.

Anyway, she recently had her Ofsted report which came back good. I was just shocked when I read it as it sounds like she lied to Ofsted about quite a lot of things. For example, it says that she gets the children to play outside or at a soft play group every day and they frequently go on outings to farms etc (not true), she reads with my 5yo after school every day (not true - she's NEVER read with him), she gets the children involved in helping to cook/prepare their meals (not true), the children have a varied and nutritious diet (not true, and something that I've asked her to change a number of times, as my 2yo always get cheese sandwiches for lunch (and he'll eat most things) and they usually have things like chicken kiev, chips and ice-cream for dinner which isn't exactly nutritious!), she talks to the children at meal times (not true, the TV is usually on).

So, none of these things are really serious or anything, it just made me think that when Ofsted visit it must be quite easy for a CM to lie about what they usually do and put on a good "show" and then revert to their usual practices the rest of the time.

It has made me feel a bit uncomfortable about using her as I need to be able to trust her and feel that this has undermined that trust. But I don't really have any other childcare options so not sure if IABU and overreacting?

Oops sorry, didn't mean to cause offence. Just got muddled

Have you discussed the report with her and called her out on things you disagree with?

The trust would have been broken with lying to Ofsted for me. Lying to get a better grade is simply wrong. If she was doing everything correct she wouldn't need to lie to get the right grade.

If she can lie knowing current parents know she is, what else does she lie about that parents don't know.

In a school or nursery, the Ofsted report is worth more as children and staff can verify things.

My DD's infant school has an outstanding rating. It was done a few years ago.

The head had a weekend's warning. Over the weekend, the grounds transformed into something that looked like the Chelsea Flower Show; she sat down and wrote all their policies; she got the staff and parents to spruce up the classrooms.

The report itself was a tissue of lies - trips that had never happened, activities they'd never done.

The head retired and they have a lovely new one now. Had they not, I wouldn't have sent my DD there. It's only now that I think they are honestly outstanding.

I, too, have an outstanding grading as a childminder. I suppose my point is that, while we're expected to sell ourselves to Ofsted, I don't think many of us have the nerve to actually lie! There are those who do and I think you can blame the tremendous pressure all settings are under to achieve good and outstanding grades.

Daisy, that's rubbish! What actually happens is that the staff cover it up. It's their jobs and rating on the line, too.