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To tell this women to grow up...

53 replies

highlighta · 11/12/2014 14:06

A colleague of dh recently got married. I can cope with his wife in very small doses.

She is one of my Whatsapp contacts. I noticed a few days ago that she had posted "3 more sleeps until my birthday yay" and party emoticon. So each day there has been a count down and obviously tomorrow is her birthday as at today she has only "one more sleep" .........

FFS - she is 36 years old!!!!!!!!!!!! Angry

OP posts:
WeirdCatLady · 11/12/2014 14:09

Feel free to tell her to Grow Up. I suspect she will reply telling you that you are a miserable sod.

WeirdCatLady · 11/12/2014 14:09

P.S. 28 sleeps til my birthday

TheGodfatherPart2 · 11/12/2014 14:10

Live and let live

VitalStollenFix · 11/12/2014 14:10

delete her?

JellyDiamonds · 11/12/2014 14:12

YANBU, I hate grown adults who still acts like kids, and I really hate this whole however many "sleeps" to something malarkey.

Once your past 21 unless they are milestones I.e 30,40,50 etc then they cease to be important.

Fullpleatherjacket · 11/12/2014 14:12

If she winds you up, de-contact (or whatever the terminology is) her.

Job done.

NorwaySpruce · 11/12/2014 14:12

Do you absolutely need to have your husband's collegue's wife as a contact?

She might be under the entirely reasonable impression that people on her contact list are her friends, and actually like and want to engage with her.

browneyedgirl86 · 11/12/2014 14:14

Maybe she's doing something special for her Birthday?

I think Yabu. A birthday is still a special occasion. Although I would never do what she has done. Yanbu for hating the phrase "x more sleeps" I hate that phrase!!!!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 11/12/2014 14:15

Just don't look at her WhatsApp status? You actually have to look at those to check them, they don't just pop up randomly. So you are deliberately looking her up each day in order to wind yourself up and feel smug that you're more grown up than her.

You should grow up Wink

QuinnTwinny · 11/12/2014 14:17

I personally can't stand nonsense like that. Just last night I unfriended an old school friend on Facebook because I am sick to my back teeth of her daily (for the past month) counting down the days to Christmas, the daily Christmas tree picture and daily list of every single item she has bought her four year old. I find that kind of behaviour so strange!

elQuintoConyoIKNOWHIM · 11/12/2014 14:22

No, OneDayWhenIGrowUp YOU shoukd grow up!

Oh, err...

Xmas Grin

My Dad is visiting from abroad on Saturday and has been sending me Whatsapp messages all week of "5 sleeps... 4 sleeps... only 2 sleeps..." etc. I have sent him a message everyday telling him what DS got in his advent calendar (that he sent DS). We are a happy, excited family.

But I wouldn't go around blabbing it to other people.

Perhaps she is meeting Johny Depp on her birthday - now THAT I'd put all over Facebook WinkGrin

Fallingovercliffs · 11/12/2014 14:26

I have to say I can't really understand adults getting all excited about their birthdays. Or expecting other people to get all caught up in the excitement and telling them how many 'sleeps' it is until said birthday.
I would just ignore her.

TheBigBumTheory · 11/12/2014 14:31

I love my birthday. I'm not on social media though-except here. I do like people who are enthusiastic and enjoy life. Looking forward to things is fun at any age. Certainly better than expecting the worst and moaning about getting older.

OP, what can a grown up be legitimately excited about on social media, in your opinion?

TheBigBumTheory · 11/12/2014 14:33

Grown ups should be more like children in my view. Non judgemental, free thinking, creative, fun loving...

highlighta · 11/12/2014 14:35

Last year (when she turned 35) there was big drama on as she expected her dh (df then) to take the day off work for her birthday. There was lots going on in the office at the time and he couldn't. She had a complete meltdown apparently (we heard from him) as it was a 'special' birthday and he should have spent the whole day with her....

I also do not understand why the big hype is about an adult birthday. Yes it is a special day to you, but to the rest of the world, its just another day...

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OfficerKaren · 11/12/2014 14:36

I'm obviously far more grown up than you OP and judge you for looking at statuses on Whatsimajig! Wink

PrivatePike · 11/12/2014 14:38

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26Point2Miles · 11/12/2014 14:39

I'm even more grown up... I can spell 'woman'!!!

a2011x · 11/12/2014 14:39

My countdown of 177 days officially starts today....

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 11/12/2014 14:39

Some people have fun, and some are just joyless fuckers.

Perhaps you simply aren't compatible.

Bulbasaur · 11/12/2014 14:40

Me and DH takes the days off work for each other's birthdays. They're special days for us. :)

Though now that we have a kid, it'll probably change since we can't really take her off from school once she starts and sicks days to take care of her will be more unpredictable.

LadyLuck10 · 11/12/2014 14:41

Why does it bother you so much? It's her life so she can choose what she does. It's ridiculous that it winds you up so much.

Gawjushun · 11/12/2014 14:46

I think we all have one thing we do that's childish. I hate the twee 'sleeps' thing too, but I love sending the poo emoticon to friends, so I'm sure many people find me insufferable for that.

ChickenMe · 11/12/2014 14:48

I think it's annoying but I'm quite restrained and cynical and I prefer people who are the same. I hate "x sleeps" and people obsessed with their birthdays too.

It's a personality thing - she's not like you so rubs you up the wrong way. I have people like that on FB and I unfollow or defriend when I start to think "twat".

ThereIsAPartridgeInTheKitchen · 11/12/2014 14:49

This honestly wouldn't bother me. Why does it bother you?