To tell this women to grow up...

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A colleague of dh recently got married. I can cope with his wife in very small doses.

She is one of my Whatsapp contacts. I noticed a few days ago that she had posted "3 more sleeps until my birthday yay" and party emoticon. So each day there has been a count down and obviously tomorrow is her birthday as at today she has only "one more sleep" .........

FFS - she is 36 years old!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think I must work with your husband's colleague's wife.

It is very annoying, particularly as I don't have an option to unfollow her, she sits three feet from me.

I get excited about other people's birthdays but not about my own so I find it hard to understand.

Her birthday never seems to live up to her expectations either, maybe because she builds it up too much. She always expects hundreds of pounds of presents from her husband and often moans that he didn't get her the earrings she wanted or even once that she didn't like the photo of them that he'd thoughtfully got printed on canvas for her.

I tend to expect nothing for my birthday so I'm often pleasantly surprised :-)

130 days until my birthday!!! wahoo!!!

It would bother me...I can't stand grown women who say...''x number if sleeps till........'' Makes me wanna chuck up.

Grown ups should be more like children in my view. Non judgemental, free thinking, creative, fun loving

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Lighten the fuck up or just ignore. Dont go letting the air out of her tyres just because YOU arent excited about something that excites her. That would be a dickhead move.

Why on earth do you have a colleague of your DHs' wife on your contact list???

Um if you don't like her then why have her on social media?

I don't get people who have "friends" on fb and the like who they don't want to speak to irl.

YABU grow up

Soz. My point should have said "wife of DHs colleague" of course

I have a friend who is very stressy about birthdays and Christmas - any event really. It is really screwed up. It reaches a point of tension that is off the scale - she has broken up with so many boyfriends on the day itself. I swear to God it is partly because it then gives her a chance to bemoan her lot in more melodramatic terms.

It all goes back to her childhood, because her mother wasn't very good at all at showing her affection. Her parents religious beliefs meant that she never got Christmas or any other religious festival either. So as an adult, she struggles to negotiate these things in a healthy and balanced way.

I often wonder if other adults who get that excited are similar, struggling underneath it all.

I like BigBum's idea. Though after watching a small person walk round saying 'aaaaaaaaaa' and throwing a ball, there is only so far I'm willing to go into the realms of childhood :)

I am not keen on those sorts of things either, but it pleases me that someone is excited about something! If I really don't like the person, I avoid them in all ways possible unless I absolutely have to have them in my life (I have about 7 of such people, they are called 'Family' - or rather, in-laws!).

Why would you want her to 'grow up'? Seriously, how does it have ANY bearing on your life just how excited/non-excited she is about ANY upcoming event? I am excited about Christmas. This is an even bigger deal than for most because of Christmases past. And I hate when people are like 'you are grown up now. Grow up!'.

You have no idea why she is so happy about it. It could be because she has overcome some traumatic event, or that she is just a joyful person.

As has been said, feel free to tell her to grow up. But it will say more about you than her in the long run!

Tell her to grow up. I bet she replies, "I AM! In just one more sleep!!!"

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We all get excited about different things. I don't think it's fair to call the OP names because birthdays don't do it for her. I agree, just ignore her on whatsapp if she doesn't like it but it doesn't mean she's some kind of joyless unhappy person because it irritates her.

When did 35 become a special birthday?? Damn, I have missed out on so many celebrations I didn't know about.

just delete her from your phone and block her from whatsapp. you don't like her so why the hell do you care....

YANBU btw

I feel old and miserable because I don't do things like that. I think I was middle aged when I was 13!

Still it's harmless enough I suppose.

242 sleeps til my birthday, woooohoooo!!!

A) you don't need her on your contact list at all.
B) if you go onto the bit that says chats instead of contacts you won't have to see her or her status at all. At least that's how my iPhone does things... I'm permanently on chats and delete old chats so I only have to see people I care for and talk to regularly on there.

So what if she's excited to her birthday, why are we expected to become so god damn boring when we 'grow up'?

I dunno - it's maybe a little annoying but she's really not hurting anyone and you're not married to her! I think a little more joy in the world mightn't be a bad thing. I have a tendency towards miserable-fuckerness and I'm trying to reform myself. I can understand excitement about birthdays far better than I can about Christmas. Adults getting all squeeeeeeeeeeee about Christmas really leaves me with a face!

why do you have the contact details for the wife of a colleague? Just delete her from your phone and you will no longer see her updates

Bloody hell, the things people moan about on MN.

do you have absolutely nothing else to do with your life than purposely look at her whats app status and annoy yourself about it. she isn't sending it to you, you are choosing to go into her contact details and look at it. why exactly?

maybe you should grow up.

She probably has no clue anyone has even seen it. Who looks at whatsapp statuses? Yes it's a bit irritating but you can just ignore her. It's ok for her to enjoy her birthday.