..to ask how you would respond to this?

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Another Christmas related one. We are quite a small family; DH and our DS and DD, in their twenties. who still come home for Christmas, although DS is working abroad and unable to join us this year. Then I have one sister who is married with no children. She and DBIL have spent Christmas with us every year for the last 25 years. We also hosted my parents but DF is dead now and DM very elderly and living in a home.
Out of those 25 years, DH and I have hosted at our house for at least 20 Christmases; we supplied all the food and drink, champagne and chocs. Occasionally DSIS would bring a pudding (though we usually had one ready), a bottle of wine or a box of crackers.Felt a bit peeved sometimes as we spent a great deal of money and time preparing and they would also take away lots of leftovers - turkey, ham, trifle, cake etc. , but tried not to let the feeling linger as it was Christmas and everyone else seemed to be happy. I usually did the majority of the cooking and all the clearing up, DH helped prepare and DC would muck in.
I got a txt the other day; 'We have a new dog and will be staying at home this Christmas.' Oh, OK, I thought, I can see you would want to stay at home, we will be over that way visiting DM, so it could work well. Scrolled down looking for 'do join us ', but no, what I saw was 'do drop in for nibbles if convenient'. Nibbles! Nibbles!
Sorry this is long. AIBU to feel miffed? I haven't responded yet, not sure what to say really.

Is this the first year that your mother won't be traveling to your place?

Is it possible that your sister felt she ought to spend Christmas with your parents/mother, and therefore at your house, and now just wants to spend Christmas with her own partner/family?

She possibly thinks you'd appreciate the break too?

Norway thanks for reply. DM has been in a home for 4 years now; she is 98 and suffered a stroke not long after DF died which meant she couldn't manage at home. I realise I should be grateful being spared the work, but I feel sad too that I don't matter very much. Oh dear, I need to get over myself don't I? Maybe time for a glass of wine and some nibbles

Any chance they are playing down nibbles and it might turn out to be the most fantastic spread that wouldn't look out of place in and m&s advert? To be honest give me nibbles any day.