AIBU to feel uncomfortable with OH playing violent games whilst holding our DD?

[Mumtobeyorkshire]

AIBU to feel really uncomfortable with my OH playing fighting/zombie games with monsters and shooting or watching programmes like walking dead or war films when he's holding or looking after our 3 month old DD?

I know she doesn't yet understand what she's seeing it hearing but I can't help feeling that the violent noises and scenes must be having a negative effect even when she's asleep.

And I'm worried that as she gets older and starts to understand what she's witnessing that she will become desensitised to the horror or be frightened by it.

Do you agree or am I being unreasonable? How would you approach this with OH?

No one in my family has ever grown out of playing with a console. This Christmas we will all be playing with a console from 2 years old to 87 years old.

We don't stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.

We don't stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.

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ida I agree here. DP's family ALL play games. Mine don't but I got my gaming from my dad.

bigbluestars, are you the fun police or something? What is allowed in your joyless house? Board games? Radio control modelling? Technic lego? Am I not a man because I'm an adult who enjoys these things amongst other hobbies?

YANBU. If he's playing a violent games he will be getting violent reactions in his body chemistry which can't be good for baby. The sounds of fighting and death will be imprinting on your baby's brain too. He should be spending the time to bond with baby, ideally with some gentle and calm music or a baby video, and save the games for when he's alone.

Seriously?? The baby is 3 months old. Not ideal if they were 3 years old, but I can't agree that anything at all will be 'imprinted' on the baby's brain if they are well fed and cared for generally.

I probably wouldn't but I wouldn't judge someone who did watch adult themed stuff with babies. The sound is a big part of it and can be designed to unsettle the viewer so maybe a baby could be upset by it? I dunno, I just choose not to. I wouldn't watch Eastenders with all the screaming and arguing either but maybe I'm just being PFB.

I don't get the 'how dare he play a game when there is a baby to be seen to!' argument, though. God forbid we don't spend every waking moment giving 100% attention to the kids.

Also, my parents are late 50s and haven't 'grown out' of playing games or such rubbish.