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so anxious that i feel sick

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 21:15

oh the thoughts of this makes me want to puke.
last year i filled for a form for the civil service and applied for it and didnt get through. a BIT of back-ground about 2 years ago she asked to go on an amazing hoilday with her. But i had planned to go on hoildays with my bf and i said yes and the bf went mad. so i told her i couldnt go. but then i changed my mind and she went so mad wouldnt talk to me yadda. But she changed her mind again said i could go with her. i said that i didnt have the money but now i have a loan.
fast-forward to 2 years later. we booked a holiday on spain in january. cant wait cheapie all in and all you can eat. I had a rotten year in 2014 so be her baby birthday and a new start on our hoilday.
we been meeting up and texting say cant wait to go on our hoildays, what to wear, plan, etc,
i got and email the other day telling me to go for a interview for a temp civil service job this week. Chances are likely are slap bang in the middle of the hoilday. yes of course i have to do this interview first, and get the job, but i heard they do the interview like on a thurdsday offer the job on a monday and maybe start on a wedsday.
she knows im looking for work and i did say to her im looking for a job after my hoilday. im very undecided tbh even my own sister said to my best friend will wash her hands off me if i mess her again. and i wouldnt blame her. and i havent mentioned the interview to anyone oh the thoughts of it is making me puke

OP posts:
Gruntfuttock · 07/12/2014 00:36

"clerical officer it be 379 a week i currently receive 188 on the dole"

I thought you'd started talking like a pirate for a moment.

Fluffyears · 07/12/2014 00:44

Grunt....arrrrrrr! Shiver me timbers.

ovaryhill · 07/12/2014 08:53

I so wish there was a like button for Gruntfuttocks comment!!

Gruntfuttock · 07/12/2014 11:50

ovaryhill I be honoured, I be. Arrr!

ithoughtofitfirst · 07/12/2014 12:15

LTB

Gem124 · 07/12/2014 12:28

I'm completely baffled

HighwayDragon · 07/12/2014 12:41

How do you get so much on dole? Go to the interview, accept the job if offered but tell them before starting you already have a holiday booked.
A word of advice though, work on your written and verbal communication.

ilovesooty · 07/12/2014 12:45

Do they sanction you in Ireland if you refuse to attend an interview or take up a job offer?

HibernoCaledonian · 07/12/2014 13:38

presario1 It might be a good idea to report your last post. You left the telephone number of the Temporary Clerical Unit in Dubin on it.

From Ireland too so I recognised the area code.

WowserBowser · 07/12/2014 13:52

How do you get so much on dole?

Euros?

ClaudiaNaughton · 07/12/2014 13:58

I think they'll be so keen to get you they won't worry about your holiday.

Mrsmorton · 07/12/2014 14:05

I might call and apply for the job as well, you'll have even less chance then OP so stop worrying!!

ilovesooty · 07/12/2014 14:13

She already said it was the Irish Civil Service.

Fairenuff · 07/12/2014 14:22

I get it OP. You have an interview in December and if you are successful you will have to take up the job and will not be able to go on holiday.

You friend will be extremely annoyed with you if you cancel the holiday.

But you are getting ahead of yourself. First of all, go for the interview. If they don't offer you the job, problem solved. Go on holiday. If they do offer you the job you can ask if they will honour previously booked holiday. If they do, problem solved. Go on holiday.

You only have a problem if they offer the job but won't allow the holiday. Cross that bridge when you come to it.

Btw, I must agree with those who think that, with the grammar and punctuation displayed in your posts, you are unlikely to be offered a clerical job. Have you considered a course to brush up your skills?

Finally, did you take out a loan to pay for this holiday?

MiscellaneousAssortment · 07/12/2014 14:32

It's not necessary to get so worried. Really.

You have no idea if you have the job. You have no idea what friend or job will say if you discuss it in a sensible manner (versus this bizarre stream of consciousness). You have no idea what the outcome will be.

Calm down.

Birdsgottafly · 07/12/2014 14:34

""I went to school in Ireland and I don't understand a single thing the OP""

WTF is going wrong in Ireland?

I was educated in the UK and have understood everything the OP has written and more importantly I understand (partly) her dilemma.

However that might be because I'm not a piss taking twat, who likes to kick someone when they are down.

OP, this friendship is causing you way too much stress to be positive, rethink it.

This is a fantastic opportunity in the current job climate, take it.

Remove everyone who isn't a true friend and wouldn't want you to go for this, from your life.

You don't need this shit, you'll find many things will fall into place once you do what you need and benefits you.

Plan to go to the interview, tell your friend, if she isn't happy for you, she's doing you a favour, by cutting you off.

Birdsgottafly · 07/12/2014 14:37

Just to add, if you saw my eldeste DD's FB posts, you wouldn't think she was capable of managing a MH unit, writing reports, chairing multi professional meetings.

How you write on forums, isn't an indicator of your capabilities.

Birdsgottafly · 07/12/2014 14:39

Haha typo, eldest not "eldeste", you wouldn't think I could write reports fit for Court, either.

XiCi · 07/12/2014 16:02

God, the level of bitchiness on this thread is something else, quite disgusting really.

OP, go for the interview, it's a good opportunity and if nothing else will give you some experience of what is expected of you in an interview. The more interviews you have the easier they get. If you get offered the job explain that you already have a holiday booked and ask if they will give you the time for this. I would make it very clear to them that if the job is reliant on you starting before the holiday then you will not go. The job is more important and there is every chance that a temporary position could become permanent in the future.

If your friend is a true friend she will understand that a job opportunity is more important than a holiday. If she kicks off you will know she's not a real friend and you are better off without her. Good luck in the interview.

NancyPurple · 07/12/2014 17:51

I'm really disappointed with the bullying high school girl mentality on this thread. Yes the OP is rambling a bit but everything is completely easy to understand.

OP, try to calm down. Go to the interview and see what happens then decide from there. Tell your friend about the interview. If she kicks off she's not a very good friend to you at all.

teenagersknowall · 07/12/2014 17:55

I cannot make head or tail of this. Completely confused.

AnyFucker · 07/12/2014 17:59

It's very wrong to be laughing my head off at this thread, isn't it

m0therofdragons · 07/12/2014 18:03

Do people ever "deserve" a holiday? Anyway, call and explain you are really interested in the job but have a holiday booked and ask if they're able to postpone... try to speak in coherent sentences though.

DoubleValiumLattePlease · 07/12/2014 18:20

AF - it is wrong but strangely unavoidable. I think for those of us that 'know' Sharon - who or whatever 'Sharon' may be - well, it reads just like a Sharon special. Has she been around lately?

ithoughtofitfirst · 07/12/2014 18:28

I thought a Sharon was that bitch everyone knows? Cleary not the case here. Who is Sharon? The name is starting to look weird and not like a real name. Hate that.