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so anxious that i feel sick

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 21:15

oh the thoughts of this makes me want to puke.
last year i filled for a form for the civil service and applied for it and didnt get through. a BIT of back-ground about 2 years ago she asked to go on an amazing hoilday with her. But i had planned to go on hoildays with my bf and i said yes and the bf went mad. so i told her i couldnt go. but then i changed my mind and she went so mad wouldnt talk to me yadda. But she changed her mind again said i could go with her. i said that i didnt have the money but now i have a loan.
fast-forward to 2 years later. we booked a holiday on spain in january. cant wait cheapie all in and all you can eat. I had a rotten year in 2014 so be her baby birthday and a new start on our hoilday.
we been meeting up and texting say cant wait to go on our hoildays, what to wear, plan, etc,
i got and email the other day telling me to go for a interview for a temp civil service job this week. Chances are likely are slap bang in the middle of the hoilday. yes of course i have to do this interview first, and get the job, but i heard they do the interview like on a thurdsday offer the job on a monday and maybe start on a wedsday.
she knows im looking for work and i did say to her im looking for a job after my hoilday. im very undecided tbh even my own sister said to my best friend will wash her hands off me if i mess her again. and i wouldnt blame her. and i havent mentioned the interview to anyone oh the thoughts of it is making me puke

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 21:48

by the way im not sharon and i dont even have a clue what the the reference is about sharon and this is nothing to do with 'sharon' my interview is on the 11 of december my hoilday is on 8 - 15 of jan most likely they would want be people to start on 2 of jan or even somewhere around december and they dont offer the job again as it states that if your not around to accept the first offer they would not be another chance that is just so lame if i thought i was still in the running for the civil service gig i wouldnt dream of booking a hoilday until i had the interview as they did email 6 months back saying you passed the test but we would not be calling you and all of a sudden they are giving me an interview datex

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jollybloodyhockeysticks · 06/12/2014 21:54

I don't understand all the mean comments. The poster has clearly come on here for some impartial advice..
Boo to you meanies ??

carlywurly · 06/12/2014 21:54

Whoa - You have to slow down. Seriously. None of your posts make any sense. If you were being interviewed for a job with my company, you wouldn't get it unless you could come across in an articulate way - both verbally and in writing.

I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but I'm concerned you're going to rule yourself out of the running for the job and miss a holiday if you carry on like this.

Most potential employers would understand you asking to move an interview if you have pre booked holiday. If they don't, they probably aren't going to be great to work for anyway.

maddening · 06/12/2014 21:59

If I were in your shoes I would tell your friend that you have an interview and are worried they would want you to start prior to the hols - she may say if you get the job go for it ( if my friend was desperate for work and it meant changing or cancelling the holiday - eg find someone else to go a And lose the cost of changing tickets or dates) then it's easy, if she is upset say you will see whether they would be willing to accept your holidays and go to the interview and tell them about the holiday, gauge their response - if it is the holiday or the job and you are desperate for work then you should take the job but accept your friend may be upset - the more warning she has the better - if she's a good friend she will understand. - getting a jb is a big thing - a holiday is a week out of your life .

ilovesooty · 06/12/2014 22:01

I don't understand what this is about. Perhaps I'm being a bit slow this evening.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 06/12/2014 22:03

No wasnt me who asked her on holiday!

happybubblebrain · 06/12/2014 22:04

I work in the civil service. I wouldn't bother going for the interview if I were you.

ThePinkOcelot · 06/12/2014 22:05

Sorry Op, but this makes no sense whatsoever.

WD41 · 06/12/2014 22:06

If you present in the interview like you do on here you probably won't get the job, you're worrying over nothing

Casmama · 06/12/2014 22:08

Who goes to Spain in January, won't it be freezing?

DoubleValiumLattePlease · 06/12/2014 22:10

If this isn't Sharon I'll eat my thumbs.

And please - PLEASE - op - who is 'she'? Who is she? Who is she? WHO IS SHE?

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 22:11

thanks maddening. that what i do feel like doing. but she can be a bit unreasonable and i remember the stress and i quickly spired into depression when my friend didnt want nothing to do with her again i felt so low. and the idea of knocking to her house and saying i cant make the hoilday makes me feel like a shit. the job is temporary im still so undecided. i know she would be happy for me but she did say to me look for a job after the hoildays.

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 06/12/2014 22:14

There is nothing to stop you going along to the interview, sussing it out and turning it down if it is not going to work out.

ThirdPoliceman · 06/12/2014 22:15

I thought the standard of literacy in Ireland was exceptionally high.
Clearly I am delusional.......

Icimoi · 06/12/2014 22:15

I think "she" is the best friend OP is planning to go on holiday with.

Satisfy my curiosity - what sort of job is it?

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 22:17

clerical officer it be 379 a week i currently receive 188 on the dole

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calzone · 06/12/2014 22:18

How did this thread get 40 posts?

I cannot understand a word of it. Angry

minibmw2010 · 06/12/2014 22:18

I went to school in Ireland and I don't understand a single thing the OP has said/typed. She's safe, there is absolutely no chance that she's getting a job with the Civil Service!

DoubleValiumLattePlease · 06/12/2014 22:19

Satisfy my curiosity - what sort of job is it?

CEO of IBM. Bet you my last rolo!

puntasticusername · 06/12/2014 22:27

Wow. Some seriously bitchy replies here.

wannabestressfree · 06/12/2014 22:34

I would take one step at a time And slow down. Make decisions as you go. The civil service are notorious for having start dates further down the line and are flexible. They will allow for a pre booked holiday. Not a family wedding.
This is not a bitchy statement at all but I would brush up on grammar and punctuation for that sort of role.

woodychip · 06/12/2014 22:40

Will I get my post deleted if I say, don't worry, you won't get the job....?

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presario1 · 06/12/2014 22:48

thanks i know i have to receive a job offer first after i could be stressing for nothing oh the thoughts for that. but however its a good opportunity

Please Note:
Before attending for interview please note that it is critical that you are available to take up a position if offered a contract. If you are not available to take up a position when offered your application may receive no further consideration (as per the information booklet).

There is no guarantee that a vacancy will exist for everyone who is successful at interview.

you will only be entitled to one interview regardless of the region(s) for which you are being considered.

Candidates who are assigned and take up a temporary appointment from this competition may in certain circumstances be invited for additional assessment to compete for a permanent appointment.

Temporary Clerical Unit

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puntasticusername · 06/12/2014 22:54

FWIW, I think you just have to decide what's more important to you - this opportunity, or your friendship. If I was in your friend's shoes there's no way I'd stand in your way on this - jobs really don't grow on trees, after all - but it sounds as if there's enough history here to make you doubt that.

Imagine pursuing each possibility and think how you would feel six months down the line if you had chosen it, and it didn't work out for some other reason. Maybe if you went on holiday with your friend, you might fight and fall out anyway. Maybe the job would be utter rubbish and a waste of your time. Which do you think you would regret most, if you didn't do it?

cricketpitch · 06/12/2014 22:55

Go for the interview. It will be good experience and good for your self esteem. Interviews are not easy to get so well done so far OP.

If the interview goes well then you can think again. Maybe tell your friend at that point.

If the job is offered to you and if the job is a temporary job but a chance to get back into work I would take it and cancel the holiday.

A good friend will understand. Good luck OP

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