AIBU to not want DC to 'cheer up' someone with the Norovirus

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DH has decided in his infinite wisdom to take our DC to visit someone with sickness and diarrhoea (sp?) to cheer them up as they have had a hard time lately. They really have and I absolutely want to support them in any way that we can. However...

They have been in hospital on a drip to stop the sickness and treat dehydration and they are still sick.

Apparently I am being completely unreasonable in not wanting to have to spend all of next week looking after vomiting children.

AIBU?

No. No. No. No. YANBU.
Sending children somewhere to see someone who has norovirus knowingly is madness. You'll all get it. Not good.

oh jesus, noro is awful. Thats why shes in hospital.
Cheer her up with dvds or something instead. Not by infecting your children

even when she feels better yiu still need to give it 48 hours

I do, Cherub, but DH doesn't. But then DH didn't really do any cleaning up. That's very interesting.

Glad he's seen sense as otherwise I'd have said to physically restrain him from taking them.

I'd just tell your FIL where to go - completely selfish of them to want the children around.

I am fairly certain that the ill person also does not want to be visited by children to "cheer them up".

Oh but they do want a visit. I can't possibly understand why having once been hospitalised with NV on Christmas Day years ago myself.

WellImFucked has it exactly right. FIL still doesn't know so I'm waiting for the epic fall out. I would so not be surprised if they turned up with sick bucket in tow.

PIL are lovely people but they can be a bit odd like this at times. As suggested I would want at least 48 hours of no vomit before I let my children anywhere near.

If, by some moment of fucking madness, they do drive up, don't let them in.

I would be happy to take a fall out of epic proportions if it prevented my children becomibg extremely ill with a notoriously violent vomiting bug.

They sound unhinged as well as disgustingly selfish and thick.

Your dh is a twat too.

Could the DC do them a mini Christmas show, sing a few festive songs that you video, tell them about their week etc and email that to them or let your (D)H take it in person, to show that you're all thinking of them ( whilst not stupid enough to deliberately expose them to a no doubt kissing and cuddling noro sufferer).

Has she actually got Norovirus? If so YANBU. But if she's just had a bit of D&V that's not so unusual in the elderly. And they almost always get admitted because the admitting doctor is usually quite junior and scared of missing something serious (hence the tests that showed nothing). But I would never take a poorly child to visit an elderly relative - a recipe for misery all round!

Argy she's had the projectiles for five days but apparently has not been sick for 24 hours.

I've spoken to all involved and made it crystal clear that there will be no visits whatsoever this weekend. I don't think any of them realise how serious and contagious it can be. I'm quite happy for all of them to think I'm unreasonable but at least I'm vindicated on MN!

They turn up and you don't let them in. They are thick and selfish.

Can you not Skype/Facetime them so they can see their grandchildren that way?

My youngest (14) had norovirus in June and was so sick she lost 20% of her body weight :( she ended up with a BMI that officially put her into Anorexia territory.

Most of her hair fell out and she was off school for a month. We ended up with the local Dr putting a drip in at home as the hospitals were closed to new admissions due to a C-Diff outbreak.

5mths later and she's still not regained all the weight and is on vitamin B12 injections and iron supplements.

We were incredibly lucky as none of the rest of us got it (we observed some pretty extreme biohazard procedures) but it was touch and go for a while.

I hope your inlaws are feeling better soon.

HCP here and am very of the if I catch it I catch it mentality but no way would I expose DC or self to Noro....it's the pits!

If she had of stayed in hospital I doubt very much they'd of let DC visit.

Your poor girl Maitland, that sounds like a terrible time .