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AIBU to not want DC to 'cheer up' someone with the Norovirus

68 replies

whatadrain · 06/12/2014 08:20

DH has decided in his infinite wisdom to take our DC to visit someone with sickness and diarrhoea (sp?) to cheer them up as they have had a hard time lately. They really have and I absolutely want to support them in any way that we can. However...

They have been in hospital on a drip to stop the sickness and treat dehydration and they are still sick.

Apparently I am being completely unreasonable in not wanting to have to spend all of next week looking after vomiting children.

AIBU?

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ohtheholidays · 06/12/2014 08:52

Tell him from someone who is seriously ill and has a compromised immune system there is no way I would want someone's children visiting me.For a starters I would never forgive myself if I passed something on to them.

Secondly my DH would brain the adult that bought they're children if I then caught something of one of those children.
Children can carry lots of different germs and bugs that have no apparent affect on them,but put them in a room with someone who is seriously ill and that ill person's body can contract that and they can end up in hospital!

I have to say there is something fucking wrong with your husband if he would take his own child with an impaired immune system in to that situation.If he insisted I'd bloody leave with the kids!

insanityscratching · 06/12/2014 08:52

If dh suggested this I'd be sending him to PILs to live for at least a week tbh. Who on earth knowingly exposes them selves or more especially their children to Norovirus? Shock

Alisvolatpropiis · 06/12/2014 08:52

He's fucking mad.

Noro virus is horrendous (had it last year and at one point prayed for death). I feel for your MIL but NO NO NO!

The bacteria can live on surfaces for 7 days after it has been touched. It is an utter bastard of a virus.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 06/12/2014 08:54

My god. He is an idiot.

Ohfourfoxache · 06/12/2014 08:54

Holy fucking shit Shock

Sorry, not helpful, but I struggle to believe the utter stupidity of this Shock

Keep that foot down - bloody stupid idea to go visiting Shock

Theorientcalf · 06/12/2014 08:56

Sorry but he's an idiot. And so is she for wanting to see them.

Ohfourfoxache · 06/12/2014 08:57

How about a phone call? Or could the dc make something for her?

Trying to think of a compromise.....

AlistairSim · 06/12/2014 08:59

Surely this is a joke?

Nobody could really be that selfish and stupid, could they??

Original poster
whatadrain · 06/12/2014 09:01

I've told him how fucking stupid you all think he is! THANK YOU all because you've made him see sense.

Now for FIL...

OP posts:
Original poster
whatadrain · 06/12/2014 09:02

Sadly, Alistair - no joke.

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Ohfourfoxache · 06/12/2014 09:03

Is FIL used to getting his own way?

Send him a link to this thread! Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 06/12/2014 09:05

FIL will be too busy hugging the toilet himself shortly to care.

If MIL has it, the chances he won't get it are pretty much zero.

My DH got it before me (from oysters), I incubated it for five days before it kicked off for me.

I remember starting a thread in chat about it and everybody pretty much said "we're really sorry...prepare yourself, you're going to get it". They were right.

londonrach · 06/12/2014 09:08

Shocked. No way should your dc or dh go anyway near. Phone call yes. Clean the phone after also light switches and door handles. Less people exposed to it the better. Your poor fil. I hope your mil looks after him when (not if) he gets it. Could your dc make get well cards. Posted or dropped through door.

naty1 · 06/12/2014 09:12

Theres been a lot going round in the last yr and we've had to avoid my parents for a week at a time.
I cant see why she has to see them this weekend.

MinceSpy · 06/12/2014 09:14

OP you are very right to stop physical contact with MIL by children and DH. FIL will almost certainly get it next. Just a thought but couldn't DH Skype his mum then she can see and talk to you all. I do have a great deal of sympathy for your PILs but they need to be sensible. Send some flowers.
I say this ad someone who has had to stay away from DPs and MIL for three weeks as I've had a chest infection.

cherubimandseraphim · 06/12/2014 09:15

Why would you need to clean the phone after? It might be v v infectious but AKAIK it can't propagate through electronics Confused

OP show your DH the NHS advice page about noro.

WellnowImFucked · 06/12/2014 09:20

No no no no.

Though let me see if I've got this right. She was ill enough to be admittied (in our area that means damn ill, both local hospitals are on red alert already) 'they' thought she had X, but tests have shown its actually Noro.
Then for some unknown rational she's selfdischarged?

Is that right?

They sound very odd to me.
Does he have any common sense at all? He clearly has no fucking idea how contagious and horrible this virus is.

I had it last year, as was pretty much housebound the most likely place that I got it was either OH but as he didn't get it and no one else on the family or work had it more likely from my one trip out on 2 months to a hospital appointment.

I was so ill despite being in my 40s I ended up having a community nurse and prevention of admission team see me for a week. They came in daily to give me IV fluids because there were no beds. And because they knew it was Noro I was always last on their list and they gloved up and aproned before even entering the house. (Normally they would do it before entering the room but our stupid house is open plan. That's how seriously people who deal with it everyday take it.

The devil in me is saying pack him off to his parents for a week and when he catches it have no sympathy.

WellnowImFucked · 06/12/2014 09:25

And because my immune system still isn't back to normal I've been advised where possible not to have contact with anyone who's been an inpatient until they've been out for a week. It can take 5days to kick in but you're shedding the virus before that.

DustyCropHopper · 06/12/2014 09:31

YANBU. Glad he has seen seen. As for fil, no is a complete sentence!

Theorientcalf · 06/12/2014 09:32

Why would you need to clean the phone after? It might be v v infectious but AKAIK it can't propagate through electronics

Grin
Aeroflotgirl · 06/12/2014 09:37

No way you have to put your foot down and physically prevent him taking ds to see them. Is he mad!

TheFairyCaravan · 06/12/2014 09:46

He's being as thick as pig shit.

DS2 (17) had Noro about 3 weeks ago. I have never seen so much vomit in all my life. He ran to the loo, didn't quite make it and projectile vomited all over the bathroom. He was like that for 48 hours. He was on the loo with a bowl on his lap. He lost over half a stone and was off school for the whole week.

I bleached everything and fortunately DH and I didn't get it. How I do not know. He was a miserable as sin, but he didn't get any cuddles from me, I was too scared of getting it!

SisterNancySinatra · 06/12/2014 09:51

Tell your DH to be a good dad and take DCs to park for a kick about or a trip to cinema instead.

cherubimandseraphim · 06/12/2014 09:53

Fairy do you have a different blood type? IIRC some people are less susceptible to noro and there is some research showing that this is linked to blood type. Weird!

RandomMess · 06/12/2014 09:54

We had the stomach cramps for weeks after the vomiting stopped, we went down one by one absolutely bloody awful thing.

Only positive was a lost a hell of a lot of weight without trying.

Never ever would I risk giving that someone.

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