to think it's so rude to get someone's name wrong?

[JaneFonda]

My first name is hyphenated - imagine something like Mary-Anne but different names!

The amount of people who call me just 'Mary' when I have introduced myself with my actual name is frustrating, and, really strangely, I've been referred to so many times as 'Anne' - if I were to shorten my name to anything, it wouldn't be the second part of my name!

I can understand people struggling with difficult or foreign names that might not be clear how they're pronounced (my surname for example, I will never take offence to someone being unable to pronounce it!), but AIBU to think it's actually just rude to not call someone by the name they've introduced themselves as?

I don't think I am easily annoyed by things but this just seems like something that inexplicably annoys me.

Vixx that's so weird....I'm actually quite at home with the Ann marie....but no other under any circs....

Yanbu.

It fucks me off when people get my name wrong. Its a very common name with an unusual (one letter different) to the norm. I'm used to people getting the spelling wrong, though it annoys me when people spell it wrongly in the body of an email when my email address contains the correct spelling of my name.

But what I really hate is people calling me the wrong name. The best way to explain it is if my name was Marie (a name in it's own right) people frequently call me Marianne. Not my name. My name is not a shortened version of some other name.

This week alone 2 people in meetings have called me the other name twice, and a friend of 20 years addressed me in email by that name too.

I correct people at the time but I always feel they think I'm being really precious. I'm not I just want to be called by my actual name!

Ooo I find it endearing

YANBU. I too have a hyphenated name..I didn't have a choice in this matter. I have been called many different versions of the name and also like- sounding names. This got on my wick so much I started spelling it as one word, which does help. Actually I started doing that after a girl called Marianne said she was going to call me by the first part only as she couldn't be bothered saying it all... nice. So I said..that's fine I will just call you Mari...she was most put out!
I have found people just think you are being weird and awkward and start going 'oooh get you...touchy oooh' if you correct them so sometimes I don't bother. I think some posters on this thread are echoing that attitude. No, it is not of earth shattering importance to get someone's name right but it is basic good manners.

1scoop do you think its because annemarie isnt usually hyphenated but spelt as one word!?

The one I know does have a gap but for some reason I wouldn't dream of just Anne....

Any other hyphenated creation I really struggle with

Vixxen - why do you find it strange? It's my name , not a childish nickname!

YANBU

If you were called Elizabeth or Victoria, those would both be FOUR syllables and no one would have any problems.

If you are called Sally-Anne or Sarah-Jane those are only THREE syllables yet people think they are "too fancy" or "too much bother" and call you Sally or Sarah which are COMPLETELY different names.

(Sorry for overuse of caps by the way)

It is RUDE to not call someone by the name they want to be known by.

I would say they are only rude if the first time they call you Mary you ask then politely to call you Mary-Anne but they still continue to call you Mary

I have a tendency to shorten peoples names but I do stop if asked nicely ;-)

I have a common two syllable name which is often shortened to just the first syllable. I am happy to be addressed as either but would generally introduce myself as my full name. I quite like it when people shorten my name without asking so you ABU to assume that people will know you don't like being called Mary unless you tell them

All people I know with hyphenated names dropped the second name as children. Some I didn't realise even had hyphenated names for years after I first knew them.

So it might just be that the people calling you just by the first part of your name have experience the same and assume you have too.

If they continue to call you only by the first half of your name after being corrected then that's rude.

People actually lengthen my name pretty regularly.

So imagine I my name is Rose (it isn't) and I introduce myself thus - they then call me Rosemary. It makes me

Something about saying a hyphenated name makes me feel like I'm talking to a small child.

I always try and get people's names right because I think it's polite. However, if someone gets your name wrong, it's not worth getting in a lather about it.

I speak as someone whose first name is often shortened in ways she doesn't like, and whose surname, thought English, is a) a bugger to spell and b) a bugger to pronounce.

So long as the people who matter get it right, I let the rest wash off me.

I'm the same and it is bloody annoying!!!!

You use a shortened name if you have had it introduced not otherwise! Or if you sufficiently close to the person

So if someone said hi my name is James I wouldn't go hi jim unless he said to or everyone called him that

Grrrr

If an adult has a hyphenated first name I find it difficult to bring myself to say it because I find it infantile and a bit undignified tbh. I know this is incredibly rude of me and entirely my own problem, but I tend to trail off into a mutter when saying the second part of the name. Ironicallyi don't like my own name being shortened.

I get irrationally irritated when people use my full first name. Even when I've introduced myself with my full first name.
Say I was called Bethany, I've always been 'Beth' to my family and friends, so when people say Bethany I find it really odd. But I equally feel odd introducing myself as Beth.

Rambling non-point.

Could be worse, my manager at work struggles to remember my name at all! I've worked there 16 months. She calls me 'Whats yer face'. She's a real charmer.

YANBU I take a lot of time and troibke to get people and place names right.....

YANBU. People can be awkward buggers. SIL's maiden name sounded like a girl's name, like say Linda May, and she was forever being sighed at and asked for her surname. Now she's saddled with Mrs Linda Howthehelldoyouspellthat, but at least she doesn't have strangers assuming she's a halfwit who doesn't understand what her surname is.

Yanbu. It's just rude not to use someones preferred name.

I go by a short version of a normal classic name (like Liz for Elizabeth). My name is Liz. I've never been Elizabeth ever. It is not my name. You might as well call me John. That is also not my name. Call me Liz. Not Elizabeth. Nor John.

Well it's your name and your identity so you're right to be fussy. I knew a Sarah Jane and she was never called anything else. So maybe you could be a little more emphatic? So if someone calls you for argument's sake Sarah just say "my name is Sarah Jane I know I sound fussy but anything else just isn't my name". Keep at it and people will get the message.

I am DREADFUL with names. Even people ive known for years their names can go completely out of my head.

So I have the foolproof strategy of calling everyone silly names.
Like 'Hello lovely.' 'Hello lady features.' "Hellllllooooooo.'

I think it's a good coverup. Doesn't work in a professional setting though.

Could have written your post OP...but in my 50s I don't care now...but I gave all my DCs a normally spelt non double barrelled name...