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AIBU?

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Original poster

Oh I could have just slapped her.

53 replies

NancyPurple · 05/12/2014 18:16

I'm having a bit of a crap time at the moment. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago but have since been back and forth to hospital including some surgery as they suspect it is ectopic. Or I may of miscarried. Either way there's a very miniscule chance that this will result in a baby. As I type this I'm waiting for my blood test results to know what will happen next.

I went to playgroup today with DS, which is a particularly close knit session aimed at a certain group so it is the same group of people every week and we've all become familiar with eachother.

A girl that goes there with her toddler and newborn was there today, and it was just us. I was speaking with the lady who works there about my current situation and this girl joined in the conversation. I explained to her but said it was most likely that it wouldn't progress. She replied 'yeah it probably won't. Ah well atleast I can be the only one with a new baby for longer'

AIBU to think she is selfish and mean and not want to go back there again? I'm so pissed off. She has always been only interested in herself and always only talks about Herself and her DC's but FGS.

I realise I sound a bit whiny and annoying. I'm feeling sorry for myself today and needed a rant.

Sad
OP posts:
AskBasil4StuffingRecipe · 05/12/2014 18:18

Um, she sounds like she's had a bit of an empathy bypass.

Sorry you're going through this. Sad

Try not to let utter idiots like this upset you.

formerbabe · 05/12/2014 18:19

She's sounds charming Hmm

Sorry to hear your sad news Flowers ..ignore her, she sounds ghastly.

slightlyworriednc · 05/12/2014 18:19

Jesus that's spectacularly nasty! What did you say to her?

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 05/12/2014 18:19

Good god what an awful response! I would have hoped to have been swift enough to respond with "what a vile way to find a silver lining in my grey cloud bitch"

Im sorry to hear you are going through this,and do hope that there is a positive outcome for you.

Try not to think too much on what she has said, rest assured she is an insensitive cowbag - you are not overreacting.

SauvignonBlanche · 05/12/2014 18:20

Shock I can't believe you didn't slap her, you'd have been justified. Flowers

AnyFucker · 05/12/2014 18:20

Good Goid, what the fuck is wrong with her ?

I hope to God she went home and had a massive epiphany about what a complete bitch she sounded.

Abra1d · 05/12/2014 18:20

Unbelievably insensitive.

MrsPiggie · 05/12/2014 18:22

Some people are just morons who should engage their 2 neurons a bit before opening their mouth. When I miscarried, my dear ex-SIL told me "Oh well, it happens all the time". Thanks for the sympathy - not!
Flowers

CoffeeandNumbers · 05/12/2014 18:22

She sounds like a complete cunt. What did you reply?
Sorry you're going through this Sad

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 05/12/2014 18:23

She was cruel and made a spectacularly unpleasant comment.

You don't sound whiny at all , you must be feeling so low at the moment.

Ignore the cruel boot at playgroup, treat her with the contempt she deserves.

SnowSpot · 05/12/2014 18:24

Another vote for her being completely insensitive. I'd consider telling her next time that her comment was really hurtful.

saiyme09 · 05/12/2014 18:24

You are definitely not being unreasonable! Actually reading that has made me rather angry on your behalf! I'm really sorry that your going through such a tough time! I think you should be applauded for having the self control not to tell this women about her self and her terrible lack of tact and manners!

Purplefrogshoes · 05/12/2014 18:27

Yanbu! What a bitch! So sorry op the waiting is very difficult Flowers

ithoughtofitfirst · 05/12/2014 18:27

Oh my god what a twat. Who thinks like that?!

So sorry op Flowers

lemisscared · 05/12/2014 18:27

I feel really sorry for that poor girl - imagine being that stupid

Original poster
NancyPurple · 05/12/2014 18:29

I stared blankly at her then went after DS. I was worried if I said anything it would just turn into crying, and to be honest her dismissive attitude made me wonder if I'm making a big deal out of nothing.

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TheBoysMamma · 05/12/2014 18:30

What a horrid thing to say Flowers

LynetteScavo · 05/12/2014 18:32
Shock

I imagine this person doesn't really have any friends......

These are for you, Nancy Thanks

SnowSpot · 05/12/2014 18:32

Poor you. No - you weren't making a big deal out of nothing, quite the opposite. You must be so worried and a nasty comment like hers will now be something to focus your worry onto, so try and forget about her (easier said than done)

I almost wish you had burst into tears - it would at least have made her realise what a cow bag she was being.

MinnieM1 · 05/12/2014 18:32

What a knob! I think I would have slapped her!
I went through something similar in the summer, had a miscarriage which resulted in an operation to remove it and a friend of my SIL at Sunday dinner kept comparing it to her abortion Hmm if I'd had the strength I would have whacked her one, she got a very firm shut the fuck up though!
So sorry for your loss Flowers

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 05/12/2014 18:33

Awful of her. She's either an idiot or a bitch. Or maybe both.

BingoBonkers · 05/12/2014 18:33

You are NOT making a big deal out of nothing. She's is a rude rude rude nasty bitch. The lady who works there should have stepped in and put her straight tbh.

Aherdofmims · 05/12/2014 18:36

She is either thick as shit or a total bitch!

cansu · 05/12/2014 18:40

She sounds more like someone who is v stupid than mean tbh.

marnia68 · 05/12/2014 19:11

I think it was a stupid and thoughtless comment.
Hoping for a good outcome for you OP Flowers

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