To ask if you ever notice people getting jealous of you and how does it make you feel?

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I'm friends with a woman who claims I'm one of her best friends but I notice a lot of things about her that upset me.

I find her going completely quiet and her eyes glazing over and staring when she sees something that I've done/made and once she nearly started to cry when id dressed dd up for a fancy dress at school.

A few examples:
She completely ignored the fact my dd had a main part in the school play. No congratulations or well done. Just completely ignored it. As a best friend, I would have expected her to at least say well done to dd.
This year her dd and mine have a similar part and she's all "well done" "congratulations" to dd.

I recently had a birthday party for dd and she came in to drop off her dd and didn't even comment on the decorating. Made the same quiet face. I had some names for an activity on the wall and she said "let's see who else you've invited then" and started reading all the invitees names and pondering if she knew their mothers. . Never mentioned the party again, didn't say whether her dd had fun or not. I know this sounds petty but everyone else seemed to be really complimenting everything, even out of kindness, but she never. I find it odd.

Like I mentioned earlier up she almost started to cry once when I'd dressed dd up on a school event.

All these situations have made me feel really shit tbh. Not because I'm fishing for compliments, but because I feel she thinks I'm a show off or something. As a friend I'd expect her to be happy for me/my children no matter what, and that's what I'm like with her. It seems I'm always supporting her, always saying well done to her children but when mine do well, her face glazes over and I can tell she's getting jealous.

It seems like you want her to jealous to be honest.

If this friend of yours posted I think it'd be reading very different.

Maybe its not about you? She may not be jealous - she may be genuinely uninterested in house decoration, party decorations and the other things that you are interested in. I agree that general good manners mean you should mention these things, but sometimes when I'm really busy and have lots on my mind I forget to complement people on things that I'm really uninterested in but should mention due to good manners.
I find it better to try and think the best of people - eg instead of worrying about how she makes you feel, try thinking to yourself that there may be another reason for not giving you complements.

I do to actual. I have a friend who has an excellent life and really worked hard to get there. Im so, so proud of her. But in the last few years the phone calls end up being all about her, she repeats word for word what her friends say about how wonderful she is a recent one was

"My new boyfriend said, 'darling, you are the most wonderful beautiful person I have ever met, I adore you, you can do no wrong...." And it went on and on, she drew a breath and giggled that she likes to 'holiday monthly now, darling."

Which again, Im really pleased about but she likes to talk about it constantly, our lives are very different and I worry she thinks Im jealous. Ive never been driven by money or material things.

Perhaps I was projecting to, but what the OP saying just seems off to me.

Have the posters attacking the OP never ever had one of those "friends" who don't ask how you are? I've met, and sidelined if I'm honest, several people over the years who, every time you see them, launch off into "OMG this that and the other happened to me" then 20 minutes later ask how you are, then as soon as you start speaking they say "Right, well, got to dash"

The OP's "Friend" sounds similar to me. We all forget the niceties sometimes, but it has to be pretty persistent to be noticeable enough to start a thread

jimineycrick3t just hit the nail on the head for me. A little empathy would go a long way here.

Those 'friends who don't ask how you are' are usually really struggling and just don't think to because other things are weighing them down.

I think if a friend walks into your living room and you say, I've just decorated and they make no comment, yes that's odd.

But if your dd had a part in the school play and you expected me to remember and congratulate them the next time I saw them, that's a bit of a high expectation. I barely know what day of the week it is sometimes, rushing round from work to collect from school.

Tbf she didnt say "Ive just decorated." The friend walked in a simply didnt comment and the OP was expecting compliments.

Dahhhling! I know when people are jealous of me. Of course I do, everyone always is. Naturally.

They aren't really!!

I think you sound a little insecure and a bit too much like hard work. Try not to care so much what other people think of you. Life is much easier and enjoyable that way.