Leaving children aibu or keep my beak out?

[Pyjamaramadrama]

I'm wondering whether other people would do this or whether I'm right to think it's a little concerning.

There's a parent at ds' school, she's often rushing in after the bell, this is relevant because it means that sometimes there's no other parents or children left in the playground apart from any other few rushing in, it also means that sometimes the classroom doors have been closed and teachers have gone inside to start for the day.

Firstly I noticed that this parent was bringing her eldest into school and leaving the two preschoolers in the car, up the road, parked on a main road, and completely out of sight for up to 5 minutes. I'd see her going into school as I was walking out and then I'd see her car parked up the road with the kids in, aged about 2 and 3.

It's not that I thought somebody was going to snatch them, more that I thought they might mess around and end up taking the handbrake off, or that the car could get hit. My sisters car did actually roll away with her kids inside once after they took the handbrake off.

Roll on a year later and her middle child is in reception, her eldest year 2, what she's started doing now is leaving the kids slightly down the road and them going into school by themselves. This means that they've got to walk up the road a bit, into the gates and past the office around the corner of the building and into the playground to their classrooms, so completely out of sight. They also have to separate as the reception classroom is in a different part of the school. I think it's very, very unlikely that anything is going to happen to them, but, there is noone really about at this time, there is another entrance at the other side so it is possible but unlikely that they could go straight out the other side of the school grounds unnoticed, or just fall over running in and there'd be noone to notice. Also because the classroom doors are closed by this time they have to knock the door to alert the teacher that they're there. I just think that they're still so little the mum should see them into the class, everyone else seems to manage it even with prams and toddlers in tow.

What does mumsnet think? And even if it's wrong what could I do anyway?

You don't need to worry about it, it's fine.

Number I actually think that's a great idea and I'm hoping that ds will be able to do the same for the baby on the way in the future.

I certainly wouldn't be calling the police and I agree statistically it might be safer in the car than crossing the road. At the very most I might have mentioned it to a teacher, if other people shared my concerns, but I certainly won't even be doing that.

I'm actually far from a judgmental busy body but I can't help feeling uncomfortable if I see something out of my comfort zone. I can't know if something is the norm until I gauge opinions and I'm hardly likely to go asking the other parents at school as some of them would enjoy a right gossip about it.

I have kept my opinions to myself thanks.

OP - you have not done anything wrong by asking the question.

Do not take any notice of the negative responses, what you have done is responsible and correct.

You have only asked for opinions, I do not see that as being judgemental at all.