Eve - That division in society is exactly where the argument lies. you argue for one side, I argue the other. My point is, society chooses where the balance lies, and we get the number crimes to fit. If we make a change, we see a change in offending. As Dawn has pointed out for example, if we increase education we see a corresponding decrease in crime, therefor it stands to reason that if we decrease education, we see a corresponding increase in crime. That is just one single influencing factor, but society gets to choose how much or how little education is given, and correspondingly, how much or how little crime it wants in the community as a result.
Likewise, we get to choose how many rapists and murderers we release back into the community, and our exposure to reoffending. Dawn has also already pointed out tirelessly that we get to choose how many reoffend by either increasing or decreasing education in prisons. Nevertheless, we as a society make that determination and control the level of reoffending in our society. Same goes for how many convicted rapists and murderers we let into our country. Society gets to choose. We control all aspects of society that determine our rape and murder rate, and we select how many we want vs. how much resource we are willing to expend keeping it at that level.
I personally believe capital punishment ends a persons life. Dawn seems to be under the delusion that 100 dead murderers may go on to reoffend anyways, but I suspect they wont. And if they do, at least we have discovered a new branch of science.
As regards your brother, I can only imagine how hard it must have been, and how courageous and considerate your family were in being able to care for the feelings of the perpetrators family at such a time. I honestly don't think I could be so compassionate, and I commend you for it.
Darcey - Like I said above, this is the crux of the debate that has rumbled in the UK for centuries. Some people cannot find it within themselves to forgive the murder of their child/mother etc, while others can. That is the balancing act society chooses to use to control the crime rate in the UK, and it is as good as any other. Whilst I may argue fervently for a return to capital punishment, not on the basis of deterrent (as Dawn so adamantly continues to attribute to me), but on grounds that it eliminates their chance to reoffend, and gives a greater degree of justice to those who feel the need for such; I do accept that it is the choice of society as a whole to decide where that live is drawn, which measures to use to increase or decrease offending, and how much murder/rape/child abuse it is willing to 'rehabilitate'.