to think a basic rule of parenting is to be able to spell your DC's name correctly?

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

DD had a xmas card from her Dad and his new partner, he obviously wrote it as I recognise the hand writing as his and hes spelled her name wrong.

Its not a difficult name to spell.

FYI hes a bit of an absent dad, so I really shouldnt expect too much.

My DF called me the wrong name for years and years. He decided I was called Rebecca (which is nothing like my real name). One day he just stopped and started calling me by my real name. I have no idea why he decided to call me Rebecca and no idea as to why he suddenly stopped but it didn't bother me as a child- it was just one of those things (though it seems very odd now as an adult). Hopefully your DD will be able to view it similarly if he continues.

As the o is silent lots of people seem to make a guess on where it goes, fair enough, but he's had 7 years to practice and he still gets his own DD's name wrong! is he doing it on purpose to wind you up?

My parents always spell ds's names wrong.
They are spelt European way rather than British due to dhs nationality. They seem to refuse it's an option

Ie think Eric, when we have said it's Erik

If she can spell it, he can spell it. Normally I like playing 'Mumsnet - Find The Reason' but I think he might actually just be a knob.

No idea Mother, or he just aint that bothered.

He barely makes an effort as it is, he could atleast try that one thing.

If his partner had written the card, then I would have understood.

Yesterday I was struggling to say Ds's name, I called him something random before my brain caught up and his correct name came out. He looked at me in horror and said "what sort of Mother forgets her own child's name?" I fear this is the start of a slippery slope like my Mum and Nan and will soon start calling all family members by long dead pets names.

Toastie, my mum calls me by both of my sisters names before she gets to mine. I wouldnt mind but I'm the middle sister, she should remember me.

Get it sorted now before she gets older. From a very young age my DS could recognise his name. There are a number of ways to spell it and he would get so upset when it was spelt wrong. Only one letter missing but he knew that.

Toastiefeet I have 5 children, many grandchildren and several pets. I have often got names muddled up but only once exasperatedly said 'oh thingamajig, whateveryournameis' and the right daughter answered!
I have never been allowed to forget it.

I called DD by DDog1's pet name yesterday, don't think I'll get to live that down.

Tali I have a Phebe without the o, because the silent o bugs me, my Dad still struggles, but to be fair I think he may have undiagnosed dyslexia. I'm afraid you ex has no excuse.

Hmmmmm, my dad doesn't know when my birthday is, and either sends post addressed to my maiden name or miss spells my very common married surname, he's still a good dad :-)

I think your ex is just being an arse but in fairness my dad calls me by a name that's similar to my own, think Sarah and Sara, no idea why.

Oh and I've called dd by the dogs name so many times I've lost count.

My dad once wrote me a birthday card written out to "Liam".

I am a woman, and not called Liam.

The address was entirely wrong too, but I had an understanding postie.

I think it's excusable to have accidentally written it incorrectly, I do it with my own name all the time when I'm writing and my hand does a thing independently of my brain. What I think is inexcusable is not realising and getting a new card. The issue for me would be if he's realised and either couldn't be bothered to tear it up and get another one or just thought he'd chance her not noticing.

My mother insisted on adding a H at the end to my brothers name for years as that was how SHE wanted it spelt and she was annoyed my father had not agreed. caused lots of issues brother still gets annoyed over it.

I have a 17 year (in feb) Phoebe

over the years we have had

Phebe
Phobe
Peboe
Phobie
Pheobe
Pheebee
Phoebie
Febi
Poblo (NO clue how)

Her little sister is Aoife People get that wrong too both in spelling and in saying.

Just sort of got used to it (and yes I love silent o's)

Okay, as (one of the) monarch(s) of MN, I'm laying down the law here. A young child NEVER, EVER should be grateful that her father sent her a card. Remembering your child's birthday is the bare minimum as a parent.

I have passive aggressive stuck in their ways in laws. My name is more commonly, but certainly not exclusively, a male name. A simple, one syllable name. Yet both of them still - after me being married to their son for 16 years - for some reason 'female-ise' my name! All. The. Fucking. Time. Think Alex changed to Alice, George to Gemma ....

Most of the time I just ignore it but I get so pissed off sometimes and get irrationally angry 'mil/fil its George (for example) not Gemma, don't you like my name?' lighthearted. They just ignore me or say 'sorry, you know what we mean, sweetie '

AaaaaaaaaaaaaaaRRRRRRRRRRRRgh.

Ds goes to nursery with a boy with a similar name. The other boy often charges over for a chat when we pick ds up. I sit opposite someone at work whose name rhymes with ds' name.

I often call ds both other names on nursery pick up journey home!

Think nick, nicky and Mick type combo!

Our sons Wupert and Bwyon often get cards with their names spelled wrongly on them, even from their grandparents who I suspect do it to make a point.

I met a lovely young girl with the name Feeble once

Phebe is a correct spelling. There's a character with that name in the Louisa May Alcott book, Eight Cousins, so it's not a modern yoo-neek spelling.

I thought this thread was going to be about yoo-neek spellings, actually. But it's not. And YANBU!

My Dad spelt my name wrong when he went to register my birth so I have had the 'wrong spelling' for 50 years now!

I would want to thump him. XH couldn't spell for toffee, but i made sure he spelled both names right! As someone with a slightly unusual name and spelling it annoys the hell out of me when someone does this!