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AIBU?

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WIBU to ask the postman to go and get the parcel he left with a neighbour?

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WeAreEternal · 30/11/2014 16:38

Last week the postman left a parcel with a neighbour a few doors away, usually this neighbour refuses all parcels, she makes a huge fuss if she is even asked and our regular postie knows this.
I also have a porch,with a little sign clearly asking parcels to be left there or signed for items to be left next door or taken back to the depot, so I have no idea why they felt the need to leave it with anyone else.

For the last five days I have been around and knocked multiple times a day, I know the neighbour is in as I can see lights and the tv and one evening could even see her through the window but she just ignores the knocking/bell and refuses to answer the door.

Obviously she answers the door to the postman, so WIBU to ask him to go back around and get my parcel when he is on our street tomorrow morning?

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AcrossthePond55 · 02/12/2014 18:13

No real suggestions since others have already suggested everything I can think of. Maybe a final note telling her the times you have tried to collect, that she hasn't answered and that if she doesn't answer her door to allow you to collect the parcel (or leave it at XX time) you will contact the police to fetch it for you. I'd also video the note and putting it through her letter box so you have proof that you have attempted to get it. Otherwise, if you do have to call the police, she'll probably scream that you are harassing her and that you haven't tried to get the parcel before, just went right to the police.

PervyMuskrat · 02/12/2014 18:35

Could you ring the sorting office and ask them to ask the Postie to retrieve it?

PervyMuskrat · 02/12/2014 18:36

Cross posts with Monathevampire1

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 02/12/2014 18:39

I'd just tell Amazon it wasn't delivered to you and then they can replace.

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WeAreEternal · 02/12/2014 21:52

Thanks all for the advice.

I went around again this evening, lights and tv definitely on but still no answer.

Then half an hour ago a woman put a note through my letter box asking me if I knew that the postman had left a parcel with mrs neighbour.
I went straight round and knocked, waited, no answer, tried the bell, waited, no answer, knocked again, waited, all the while stood there in a tshirt in the freezing cold windy drizzle, then finally someone answered the door, it wasn't the neighbour but a healthcare assistant who showed me in to speak to my neighbour (in a rather formal manor). It turns out mrs neighbor slipped on some wet grass a couple of weeks ago and has hurt her hip, she can hardly walk so has been ignoring all knocks at the door and has had healthcare assistants come to her house a few times a day to help her by. It was one of the HCA who accepted the parcel.
My neighbour was surprisingly nice about it and even nicer when I said she knew where I was if she needed anything.

So I have my parcel, and my neighbour isn't a crazy parcel stealing nutter.

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2014 21:53

Wibbly: but why should the neighbour get to keep the original one?

Plus it just confirms the notion in her head that what she's done is acceptable, and she's more likely to do it again. And again. Out of sheer buggery spite.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2014 21:54

Oh. Cross post.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2014 21:57

That's a bit daft of the HCA to take the parcel in, knowing that your neighbour couldn't answer the door!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/12/2014 21:58

And instead of posting the note through your door, why couldn't they have just brought the parcel round with them?

GahLinDah · 02/12/2014 22:00

I love a happy ending (well not the lady being injured bit). You never know, she might warm to you a bit now op. Alls well that ends well, enjoy your parcel.

scarletforya · 02/12/2014 22:02

Phew!

SquinkiesRule · 02/12/2014 22:03

Silly HCA. Glad to hear that the neighbor isn't a crazed parcel stealer.

Starlightbright1 · 02/12/2014 22:13

well Glad it is all sorted out a bit of an anticlimax but nice ending..what was it in the end?

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WeAreEternal · 03/12/2014 00:19

And instead of posting the note through your door, why couldn't they have just brought the parcel round with them?

I have no idea, that would have made more sense, it's possible they thought 9pm was too late to be knocking on someone's door though.
I only knew about the note card because my dog loves the letterbox and goes mad when something comes through it.

I'm sorry for the anticlimactic ending, but I'm happy I got my parcel and avoided confrontation with a usually difficult neighbour.

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waithorse · 03/12/2014 05:20

Poor lady, hope she's ok. Glad you've got your parcel at la
last.

Pumpkinpositive · 03/12/2014 09:15

Your neighbour might be the poster here who a few months ago said that she thought neighbours going round to collect parcels were incredibly rude and that they should just wait until she wanted to go and deliver them.

Oh Gawd, that one is burned into my brain.

Why did she take the parcel in if she's so opposed to doing so?? Does she like the power?

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