To think that wearing a digger jumper will not mentally scar DD?

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Walking through town today with DD (16 weeks) in front carrier. She was wearing blue trousers and a jumper that used to be DS's which is blue with dark blue diggers and trucks on it.

A woman I know (friend of MIL) stopped us to say hello.
Woman - I thought you'd had a baby girl!
Me - er...yes. Still do!
Woman - but she's wearing all boys' clothes! (Shocked face)
Me - yes, they were DS's
Woman - (still looking aghast) But the poor thing! Are times so hard that you can't get her a nice dress!?
She then addressed DD along the lines of 'poor thing, mummy is making you very confused.'

What would your reply have been? I thought this was a bloody rude thing to say.

DD wears lots of boys clothes as I have a large amount of good quality, hardly worn jumpers/t shirts etc, all from next and mostly like new as I went totally overboard with pfb DS.

I didn't think that this was particularly cruel..? AIBU??

YANBU. She'd have been horrified at DD2's blue overalls with a double decker bus on them which I bought because I love buses. As to tutus, DD1 often wanted to wear them so I put leggings on underneath as a compromise.

DS1 had huge eyes and eyelashes, he was once wearing blue combats, a blue tshirt and some mini brown kicker type boots. I got - 'what's her name?'.

I grew up with two older brothers, my parents weren't poor but not only did I wear their hand-me-downs my mother had my hair cropped and would buy 3 different sized replicas of whatever they had. I grew up a bit of a tomboy but LOVE makeup and girly things, albeit with tattoos and biker boots maybe I am confused!

I'm in the same place OP with a DS followed by a DD. Now at 4 she mixes hand-me-downs with newer more girly stuff but I'd rather have her in leggings not thinking about clothes than in dresses she doesn't want to run around in.

Someone once asked me what 'his' name was. I replied completely deadpan 'mercGIRL' and watched her do the most classic double take I've ever seen.

Hands up who had a pair of brown dungarees and and orange striped t-shirt as a child in the '70's
DD1 wore an awful lot of DS's old clothes and I managed to escape most comments, any I did get just got laughed at tbh. Probably offended some people because I would laugh in their faces but it's so silly!

Gosh I get this the whole time dd was wearing a pink pinafore dress once and another time was wearing a very posh blue romper suit from m&s, where I gave up and after a
Very circular conversation... When she asked what 'his' name was for third time and claimed it was Angus, when she when would not accept dd's name!

Incidentally dd is wearing a brown cardigan, although I suppose you could call it mustard if you were being polite!

curly hair, long lashes and a rounded face meant that ds was mistaken for a boy, despite wearing blue snowsuits.

on the obligatory visit to mils house which has drafts like an arctic blast, I dressed dd in some blue hand medown padded dungarees and the yellow cardi one of mils relis knitteed and was asked whether she ever wore pink... can't win.

Yanbu! Dd, nearly 2 had a teenage ninja turtles and a batman t shirt over the summer courtesy of my best friend and I'm quite sure she's still a girl now ! Mind you everyone we meet out and about seems to think she's a boy, even if she's dressed top to toe in pink

Are you sure she wasn't joking?

I simply refuse to believe that anybody really cares about what other people dress their babies in.

I'm a girl and I like diggers.

Hand me downs are great, better for the purse and the environment.

As long as your child is reasonably clean dressed for the weather and comfy who cares?

why would you want to dress a 16 week old, in a carrier, in dresses anyway? I don't walk around in pink frilly dresses every day myself either.

Response would probably be 'Shit the bed, I picked up the wrong bloody baby from the nursery!' or something similar. What backwards thinking :( DD has beautiful dresses and also commando crawls around in dungarees and Batman onesies (she has an unhealthy amount of Batman clothes).

Is that woman my SIL? I can see her twitch everytime DD is in nongirly pinky sparkly attire. We get a lot of girly hand me downs from her DD, I pick out what I like and send the rest to the charity shop.
SIL was also horrified that I brought DD (then aged 8 weeks) to doctors in a onesie as they are "pyjamas". I thought it practical to bring a baby into an outfit that easy to get on and off.

Baby must have been bloody freezing without a coat on.

You are sending your daughter very dangerous messages by dressing her in clothing that implies that she is not entirely defined by her vagina.

How will any of this help her to find a husband?

That's what you need to be asking yourself here.

YANBU!
I hope she grows up to use the real thing!
I have a female friend who is a site engineer and is qualified to drive JCBs. We have moved beyond sexual stereotypes - or should have done.

Tbh I hate to see little girls dressed as mini Barbara Cartlands.

We have a new DD after a DS and she is wearing his handmedowns. She also has a name more commonly used for boys. It makes some peoples' brains explode.

When my nephew was a bit younger my SIL used to put him in a pink vest with 'boy' written on it, people used to presume he was a girl even when he was wearing 'boys' clothes because he has big eyes and is quite pretty. Surely that generation would approve of you making good use of hand-me-downs.

Maybe MIL's friend think you're going to turn your DD into a lesbian if you dress her in anything other than pink frills OP.

When my two DDs were babies around 30 years ago I never dressed them in pink, ever. It's a colour I hate and I hate the whole pink for a girl thing.

Dressed the elder DD in black a lot when she was a bit older - think black checks, velvet and dark greens and reds because the darker colours suited her colouring.

She still wears a lot of black, other DD tends towards pale colours as they suit her colouring.

Neither DD wore any blue hand-me-downs from their older DB as I never dressed him in blue either.

Ha - DD always got mistaken for a boy, usually whilst wearing sundresses (summer baby). I mean...really?! One man kept insisting that she was a boy - it was most odd.

My DM told me DD would have gender confusion because I put her in ds2s old PJs.

For the record she doesn't!

I used to get this a lot with DD because I chose colours like blue, red and green for her a lot since I'm not a fan of pink. I never let the strangers comments bother me since babies all look the same but Mum's ribbing about 'oh mummy's dressed you as a boy today' used to make me grind my teeth. Now her hair is a bit longer nobody comments, shame really, I've had time to come up with better replies now

Didn't matter what I dressed my kids in - people always assumed the one with straight brown hair was a boy and the one with blond curls was a girl.

Oh my! She would get a very long lecture about gender stereotyping, she would try to extract herself and I would just plough on! This is a massive issue and I just could not bite my tongue in the face of such ignorance combined with rudeness. Livid on your behalf!

Dd(3) has plenty of dresses and some fabulous tights. She always chooses to wear DS's (6) hand me downs though. DS on the other hand looks awesome in pink (blond hair, very blue eyes) and is miffed that we can't find a pink hoody that doesn't have butterflies/sequins etc on.