About people being early...

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Have a relative calling later who I know will be early. It's fine today as I am anticipating it and have time, so will be ready, but it got me thinking.
Why are some people always early? I don't mean for a doctors appt, or a job interview, which is fine. I mean calling round socially.
DM is always early and can be sniffy if I'm not ready. It always makes me stressed.
Anyone else have this? Or are you an early person?

I'd rather be early than late and I hate folk being late.

Anyone coming here on a Sunday before noon for no good reason won't be welcome.

Arriving early or late is rude but 15 mins either way is fine IMO. I hate lateness more though.

One of the parent's of ds's friends once dropped him off an hour early for a play date! Even worse, he just left the lad to run out of the car and he left! We'd only just got back from being out or else the little lad would've been stuck outside on his own (he's only 9!).

Appointment you should always arrive 10mins early but to someone's house always 10 minutes late.
I can't stand early people.

A friend I lift share for dcs activities is infuriatingly early ALL THE TIME. I'll get my dcs from after school club and arrive home at about 5.30. She is supposed to pick them up at 6 but 9 times out of 10 she is waiting on my drive, all stressed out, pulling my car doors open and yelling HURRY UP. I used to rush the kids along but now I encourage allow them to take the 30 min to get ready. I would knock it on the head but the lift share is convenient for both of us. If she just turned up at 6 then it would save a lot of stress.

My mum will arrive up to an hour early and be sniffy at us being less than delighted to see her. Guaranteed row occurs. Sil as well, an hour early. It puts me off making arrangements tbh as I can't fucking stand it. Friends who are anything more than half an hour late for arrangements also piss me off massively and I eventually stop making arrangements.
Just be about on time, and never ever early to my fucking house!!!

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I'd rather someone was early than late. I like to be bang on time being late makes me panic!!

Sorry qualifier to above rant- 30 mins late regularly will eventually result in being booted off the invite list

Both DM and MiL are always ridiculously early, usually at least 30 minutes, often closer to an hour. They live about 5 miles away. It drives me mad.

I'm often early because I hate being late and rushing around so I overcompensate and end up early

i don't mind people being late tbh if it is an invite to come over as long as it is not over 30 mins and they let me know. I always make an effort to be punctual if I am going to someone's house or an appointment, work etc.

But please don't come to mine early if you are coming for a meal etc as it is really irritating and I am often tidying up etc before they come so give me a chance.

My FIL is always early. Drives me up the fucking wall when we arrange him to arrive at 3 and he shows up at 2. Seriously, he's that early. And when he shows up unannounced it's even worse, he did it when DS was about a week old I'd had an EMCS and he showed up unannounced at 9am. I was so furious I went and stood in the kitchen to calm down for about half an hour before I could face him, but I digress

He just doesn't get that being so early all the time is fucking rude. When he does it I am so pissed off I can't even bring myself to be particularly nice to him (I know I shouldn't be rude but I can't impress on you just how ragey it makes me) so I'm sure he just thinks I'm always a moody cow. Now I make sure we go out before he's expected and we don't arrive home til 5 minutes before he's expected. Don't think DP has noticed we always mysteriously run out of something important on those days...

Bring early is as rude as being late.

Just be on time. It's easy

Have to say though the rest of my in laws are chronically late and that gets on my nerves too. I'm talking like half an hour to an hour late every time (except FIL of course!)

Why can't people just be on time

Meeting in public? All parties on time. Visiting at home? Ten minutes late .

YANBU, OP. Any more than 10 minutes early is rude.

I have an aunt who always showed up early and I used to make her sit there without even bothering to say hello, while I took my sweet time doing whatever I was finishing off.

Anyone else who dares to show up at my house early will get the same treatment.

You wait in the car if you are early or grab a cuppa. No excuse for bring very early. None.

For dinners, we invite people over "anytime from 5pm and we'll eat around 6pm" so there's a window of time that's good to come -- I thought most people did this? Who invites people for dinner at the time they expect to sit down and eat?

Even for coffees etc, it's "around 1pm" or "between 1 and 1.15pm." It's impossible to be places precisely on time.

I'm tend to be early so for parties or things like that, aim to be there about 30 minutes late. For everything else I aim for the latest time they said. This way I'm not early but not too late as to get super stressed about it.

This drives me a bit mad too. I do think being late is ruder in most situations, especially if you are meeting up to go somewhere or do something specific. But when someone is hosting you at their house you should not turn up early - it's really inconsiderate. Stand on the pavement round the corner until I've brushed my hair and vacuumed it's the right time damn you! .

My parents are always early. If I say "anytime after 12:30 for lunch at 1:30" I can guarantee they will turn up before 12:15. And I won't be ready for them. And it will be just them there looking at their watches and obviously thinking everyone else is rude too be late until everyone else turns up at 12:45.