to be offered a seat when pg

[daisydee43]

hi

is it old fashioned but thought if you were pg and standing up then someone in seat may offer it up to you?

today i went to an activity day with dd2 and my friend who is also pg and her dd. i was shocked.
we had to go into different rooms every 20mins to do new activities and each time as were a big and slow atm we were last in the rooms so no seat available. there were non pg women and men sitting down and although our bellies were clearly bulging out, no movers. at one point i said loudly to my friend 'i wonder how many people will offer a seat to two pg women'. one man looked over but nothing else. both suffering with braxton hicks a seat would have been lovely

am i mad?

Ilive, while I feel sympathy for those ttc, it doesn't have a bearing on the basic etiquette of the situation, does it?

The reason for offering the seat is that a pregnant woman's physical need is greater than an able bodied adult. It doesn't matter that she chose to get pregnant, or she's very lucky to be expecting a child. It's not about expecting people to bow down or reward her, just an acknowledgement that her body's under additional pressure. Surely the kind and civilised thing to do is to help her out?

I think most would agree that a loud comment to the room at large is not likely to help get a seat, for lots of reasons. But I understand why the op reacted like this. She's feeling shocked, embarrassed to ask and not sure what else to do.

I would offer my seat to anyone I thought less able to stand than me. As a fit and healthy young woman this would include pretty much everyone, pregnant women, those on crutches, elderly, frail or infirm people, those carrying babies or small children. You shouldn't have to be asked in order to be kind.

Exactly, instead of overthinking it and trying to be PC, why not just offer?

The man sitting opposite me stood and offered his seat, the response was 'No thank you, I am pregnant, not disabled'.

It's idiots like this (the woman) that spoil things for everybody.

YANBU

What has the world come to when people just sit on their arses while an obviously pregnant woman stands up.

Of course yanbu.

Don't ask this on mn in future as you get people who can't see the huge rudeness of no one offering you for the slight rudeness of your cmommy.

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when i was expecting my 2nd ds i used to get bumped into when in town, had doors let go in my face so I'm not surprised, didnt change after I had him either :(