AIBU to fancy the pants off a serial killer?

[kelliebrookexoxo]

Okay please forgive me for the slightly shocking title but it sets the tone for the predicament that I have gotten myself in to. So, on Thursday night, I settled down to the second episode of the new series of The Fall, cuppa tea and Dairy Milk in hand ;) Half way through I posted a FB status, (Facebook here we go, I know!) saying that Jamie Dornan could kill me anyday! And that he was a sexy serial killer. Obviously, this was a joke and I do not infact want Jamie Dornan nor anyone for that matter to kill me... ever. However, a lady (in her thirties) whom I'd only met a few days before at a friend's birthday dinner took offence to my status and left the comment 'Oh dear. What a silly thing to say! Think before you press send'. I promptly deleted the status very embarrassed and so as to make sure none of my friends could publicly defend my little comment or indeed so that no one else could criticise it! I private messaged her, saying 'Sorry, I didn't mean to cause offence. Have deleted the post xx'. No reply. Now I am kind of angry with myself for apologising in the first place and not defending myself. What do you think? Was my status inappropriate or was she out of line?

Kellie
xoxo

The fall is on netflix? Is it good?

Op, id delete her for chastising you

What's her age got to do with it?

I don't think it's that odd to add someone you've only met once, I have done similar, especially if we have really hit it off.

Is this series worth watching?

I"ve never heard of it.

I guess I'm really finding it difficult to explain myself here!

I don't think it's strange that you have someone on your friends list that you have only met once! I have people on mine that I've never met. But given that you don't know people on your list, it would be wise to restrict your posts somehow- either don't post anything even vaguely controversial in the first place, or use the family/friends/acquaintances thing to restrict who can see things.

Don't get me wrong, I do understand where you're coming from Crohnically Anxious. I definitely should have edited the audience, and if I had remembered this was an option at the time I would certainly have done this.

Yes, the show is absolutely gripping! Check it out :)

Definitely worth watching. I hadn't heard of it either until the other when I took a peek. I have no idea how I missed this. It's gripping and as creepy as hell.

If I had a "friend" put up a status like you did I would block her.

I don't think you needed to apologise. It was a joke, ok not a particularly good one but there was nothing malicious or spiteful about it. Don't give it another thought. She could've just ignored it or hidden it from her newsfeed if she didn't like it.

Yanbu. The woman sounds like abit of a dick to be honest.

YANBU, not your fault she feels the need to take it seriously. I wouldn't have apologised or taken the status down if I were you, most people wouldn't be so uptight about a fictional character.

Jack I totally agree with you , people need to chill out a bit , it was clearly meant in a light hearted way .

I also fancy the pants of jamie dornan

*off

I'd have just replied after her comment telling her it was a) a tv series, b) a joke And then I'd have deleted her :)
I run a business and for some unknown reason, even though I have a business page, some of my customers add me as a friend on my personal account. I feel bad ignoring the friend requests so I accept them but have my profile set so only my actual friends can see my pictures, updates etc. the rest are on restricted profile so only get to see boring updates I want them to see that way nobody gets offended my massive amount of sweary status updates and sharing of pictures of half nekkid men folk

wouldn't it be a tad socially awkward if I had ignored or declined her request
Depends if you use FB as your benchmark for social niceties

I think it was lucky she saw it and commented prompting you to remove it before all the people on your fb saw it. I would have thought negative things about you if I had read it on my fb feed.
I don't think you needed to apologize. You made a fool of yourself but you did nothing to her. I don't think she would have expected an apology. It sounds more like she was suggesting you would be better takinh it down more than anything else.

When people get twatty on my FB posts, I just delete their replies without saying anything. They can have all the free speech they want on their own walls.

He's an obviously fictional character, and it's obviously a play on what his character does. I think people know you meant "OH MY FUCK HE'S SO SEXY I WOULD TOTALLY DO HIM IN A HEARTBEAT".

People say the same thing about sexy cops on shows "He can arrest me any day".

In any case, next time just delete her reply. She can get "offended" on her watch, not yours.

I wouldn't have deleted the comment either. It's a fictional character from a TV programme ffs. Her comment was condescending, I'd have to delete her.

He is hot. I have said something similar to a friend that it feels weird fancying someone who plays a serial killer so was pleased when he was cast as Christian Grey as it's going to be totally normal to fancy him! However, probably a thought best kept to yourself or amongst close friends (as you mention audience limiting).

Thankfully my friends understand my dark humour and don't get all offensive when I make a dark joke.

This woman? she wouldn't be my friend for long if she can't take a joke in the way it was intended.

offended*

He's a fictional character so no problem IMO!!! I was also expecting this to be about an actual serial killer, or at least an actor playing a real one like when they did a dramatization about Fred West.

Is she very very against entertainment violence OP, so would find The Fall inappropriate if it was mentioned in any context? Like a few people on here who seem to say loads of things should be banned - obviously if something's got a big red 18 on the box or is shown at 11PM, it's probably not suitable for your 4-year-old, but we don't need to start Russian-style state controlled media either!!

I think it's an unwise/insensitive thing to say on FB where your audience includes recently met acquaintances ie: you don't know your audience. In an email to a few friends it could just be read as banter...so in this case you made a judgement error, but don't worry, you've done the right thing.