We moved to a much bigger house in the summer. Our 32 in tv now looks a little small in our lounge. PIL and DH have mentioned about how we 'need' a bigger tv pretty much constantly. DH is desperate for one but we can't afford it atm. Especially when there is nothing wrong with the old one. So far, we have had several conversations with pil about the TV. The first, asking us why we didn't treat ourselves to a bigger one. We said that we couldn't afford it. The next, offering to give DH half towards a big tv as his Christmas present (they buy it, we pay them our half back monthly). DH said no, again because we don't need one and the house is much more expensive than our old one; we are still getting used to higher monthly out goings and do not want to over stretch ourselves financially. Today, DH has had a phone call from pil suggesting that they buy it for us as a joint present. PIL asked dh to ask me if I was ok with that and then let them know. I can't say no, can I? DH would agree in a heartbeat. PIL really want him to have his tv. If I say no I'm being a complete cow. I'm not bothered about actually having a bigger tv. However, I would never dictate to pil what to buy me for Christmas. I just wish they hadn't asked because I feel like it is all on me. I'm uncomfortable with the amount of money they spend on us anyway. I worry that my parents compare and feel bad as they spend a more modest amount. I dont want to be in this position because I want to say no but I cant without looking like a selfish bitch. For the record, my pil are lovely people, I love them to bits and there are no issues. I do know how lucky I am.