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to be upset that someone reported me on fb?

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Serotonin · 19/11/2014 22:43

One of the people on my friends list has reported one of my pictures for nudity as I had posted a pic of me breastfeeding my daughter Sad

I have no idea who it was because I thought everyone I had on my list were decent people.

If anyone is interested I am posting feeding photos on fb under the hashtag #BreastfeedingIsNotNudity.

I feel so let down - I don't want to be friends with someone that holds that sort of view...

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WorraLiberty · 19/11/2014 23:05

Yeah true Gunpowder

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Serotonin · 19/11/2014 23:05

Thanks I don't mind being outed haven't posted anything particularly and as far as I know nobody is here that I know.. Wink

the pic was originally posted without the hashtag so I know if it was reported it was deffo by someone on my friends list.

The reason I say it makes it harder is because a couple of first time mums have mentioned to me separately that they are too worried about other people's reactions to feed outside of the house. Having even one person think like that can knock anyone's confidence let alone someone who needs support Sad

I don't mind the brainless comments if any do come to be honest I'm still raging hours later - and no I don't have much on my plate now my life is going reasonably well thanks!

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Gunpowder · 19/11/2014 23:07

Btw I really rarely go on Facebook so these things don't upset me so much. Just seems like a social minefield now, instead of where you post your holiday pics and find your old school friends.

goodasitgets · 19/11/2014 23:08

People report everything, some people have nothing better to do. Apparently my photos of me in a fitness studio, on a pole, wearing shorts and vest top "contained nudity" Hmm
FB didn't remove them, funnily

Discopanda · 19/11/2014 23:08

As soon as I have number 2 I'm going to put up a picture of myself breastfeeding (if I am able to do it with this one too) because it needs to be made the social norm, not OMG somebody's breastfeeding! It should be as normal as a photo of you in Costa or having a day out with your kids. What really gets my goat about FB is that admin refuse to remove racist and bigoted posts, like the anti-Islamic posts from Britain First and Backbone of Britain :-(

pissinmy2shoes · 19/11/2014 23:12

no idea why anyone would post pics of themselves feeding a baby....
odd
but as said
just put up
if you don't like the pics I put up bog off
(tbh I would just hide the pics....I have no interest in women"s boobs)

CelibacyCakeAndElevatorMuzac · 19/11/2014 23:17

I'll take the bait. Why is it odd pissinmy2shoes

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Serotonin · 19/11/2014 23:19

piss you can't actually see my boobs is the point!

also, I'm posting a pic of me and my baby having a snuggle it just happens she's having some milk. no stranger than posting a picture of a baby having a bottle or eating some porridge.

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LardyDa · 19/11/2014 23:22

I think it would be really odd that someone would report this because they were actually offended by the photo. I wonder if it is more likely that they did it just to have a go at you. Iyswim. If it's a subject that people think you are passionate about then maybe they saw it as a cheap way to have a dig at you.

WorraLiberty · 19/11/2014 23:23

the pic was originally posted without the hashtag so I know if it was reported it was deffo by someone on my friends list.

Right but, does that mean your profile is public then?

If you've got it set to friends only, you would know for certain it was a friend who reported it.

Or did you post it in a group?

Either way, you might be better explaining to your reluctant breast feeding friends, to ignore FB twats.

This fight has already been fought and won with Facebook.

Sadly, you're not going to be able to do much about a few reports from 1.23 billion monthly active users.

Teaching them to ignore would be a much more valuable use of your time.

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Serotonin · 19/11/2014 23:30

My profile is private as is almost all my pictures.

I have already organised to go for a coffee with my friends who are finding it tough to give them moral support (and some tips) when they feel up to it.
I don't have delusions that I am going to change people's minds but I wanted to feel like I had done something positive.

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Serotonin · 19/11/2014 23:31

LardyDa I hope it wasn't a personal dig - that passive aggressive nonsense really grinds my gears and fb is soooooo bad for it!

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WorraLiberty · 19/11/2014 23:34

Ahh ok well then it's a problem that one of your friends have with breast feeding, or perhaps as a PP suggested, they might have a problem with you and are trying to get to you.

Really, try not to give them that pleasure.

scarletforya · 19/11/2014 23:36

blondes Why do you have an album of bums please?

BlueBrightBlue · 19/11/2014 23:37

I have deleted my face book account.
For years I was so against it but was curious and tbh enjoyed the light hearted banter and sharing of photos etc,
Then things turned sour. My boss sent a friend request, how could I refuse?
It went downhill from there, she friended my friends, people she had no connection with whatsoever.
Get with the real world and don't fret about what sad facebook people have to say about your baby feeding habits.
I have fed my dc in front of everyone. Didn't make an issue about whopping them out, just did what mother nature intended and no one said a dicky bird.
Facebook is a dangerous place in the wrong hands. I'm so glad I'm shot of it.

pissinmy2shoes · 19/11/2014 23:38

Serotonin so now it is a
'snuggle"
I went by your op sorry.
I am old and do not give a shit how anyone feeds their baby.
I thought this was about a pic of you BF.... but now it is a snuggle.
my mistake

ChimesAndCarols · 19/11/2014 23:54

Well I've just followed the # and it led me to that page, then your name, and then your Facebook page with your friends, profile and everything. All your photos as well.

QueenTilly · 19/11/2014 23:56

It doesn't need to have been one of your friends. The whole of mumsnet could search the public hashtag and report all photos.

Beautiful baby and congratulations.

QueenTilly · 19/11/2014 23:58

P.S.

Sort out your privacy settings.

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Serotonin · 20/11/2014 00:05

My profile is definitely private all posts except the three breastfeeding ones are set to friends only as far as I can see on the app.

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Serotonin · 20/11/2014 00:07

There is a friend of mine who has also added a bf pic to that hashtag so it might be hers that is public

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Serotonin · 20/11/2014 00:07

piss I said I was snuggling whilst feeding in my response to you Smile

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LardyDa · 20/11/2014 00:09

Umm, did this happen in 5 or 6 months ago or recently?

LardyDa · 20/11/2014 00:10

Maybe your # is not unique ???

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Serotonin · 20/11/2014 00:11

LardyDa it was only posted today (well yesterday actually)

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