Can I ask if this would upset/offend you?

[JaneFonda]

Another thread got me thinking about this, and I just thought I'd ask here because I'd really appreciate honest answers!

If someone uses the incorrect terminology for something eg. Disabled toilet instead of accessible toilet, or autistic child instead of child with autism, does it offend you?

I really try not to upset anyone and to be sensitive when I talk, but reading threads on here has made me realise that I may inadvertently be doing so by using incorrect phrases that I genuinely didn't know weren't the right thing to say.

I understand different people prefer or dislike different terminology, but I'm just curious as to if it's upsetting for you when someone uses the wrong word.

I agree there's nothing wrong with people gently pointing out that accepted terminology has changed but very often, that is not the tone taken by MNetters who correct people, not at all.

It is astounding how quickly it changes. When I was at school (honestly not that long ago) children with learning difficulties were referred to as "remedial" and that was by the professionals, the general public would have said retarded or backward.

Not very many years ago, to say someone was "a bit special" would have been a really lovely thing to say, whether they had additional needs or not.