to ask DB not to bring turkey?

[LilyTheSlink]

We (DP, kids and I) are having my parents and siblings over for Christmas day.

We're vegetarian, and will be having nut roast, etc. The oven will be ram packed.
DBrother wants to bring a turkey/turkey portion.

WIBU to say no? Is it mean of me, given that he'd probably prepare it all himself?

[TrinityRhino]

but then our house is 'non alcohol, non turkey ' all year round


but I don't give two shits if you want to bring your own turkey and alcohol

[LilyTheSlink]

Well, Trinity, if you're having nut roast for me, I'll go without Baileys for you. But we can still eat Roses till we feel sick and then argue about charades, can't we?

[TrinityRhino]

oh god yes, too much chocolate and charades IS christmas

[grumpasaur]

Lily- sorry, I didn't need to be nasty!

You actually sound lovely- just one of your posts made you seem like a colleague of mine who is a very loud vegetarian- drives me batty and makes all sorts of inaccurate assumptions, and think something you said struck a nerve.

Sorry about that! Everything I said about traditions, though, I still mean. Just rescind mean comment about you being evangelical :-)

[LadyLuck10]

Glad you've decided to let it go and choose your Xmas family time over a turkey.

[cheesecakemom]

If you aren't allergic then yabu!
How would you feel if he said he's not vegetarian and only offering meat dishes at his house so what he's offering is enough - take it or leave it!

The whole point of hosting something and inviting people is to make your guests feel welcome and enjoy! I have a friend who is vegan and we always try our best to find suitable restaurants catering for all out dietary needs not just 1 person!

[WhizzpopWhizzBang]

Interesting to read these responses as I posted the EXACT same scenario a week or so ago, when I said that DH was cooking a 3 course vegetarian meal, and MIL wants to bring her turkey!
Was a near enough unanimous thread in that turkey IS Christmas, and we should just suck it up and it was seriously unhospitable to say no meat for Christmas lunch.

[Bunbaker]

"Out of interest, if you were invited round to a vegetarian's house on any other day of the year, would you think it fine to bring meat? Genuine question."

No I wouldn't. I am an omnivore and love a juicy steak, but I am also someone who enjoys all types of food and often eats meat free meals. I am not fond of turkey and a nut roast sounds very appealing to me. (However, I would still want some pigs in blankets at Christmas).

[nocoolnamesleft]

:-p

[Theorientcalf]

Ye Gods, what is it about a dry and dull nut roast that vegetarians insist on having it at Christmas? Is it the default option? Are other much nicer veggie meals not allowed?

(Yes I have vegetarian parents and have had years of nut roasts forced upon me as a teenager, can you tell?).

[HSMMaCM]

There are lots of alternatives, but my nut roast is not dry or dull (although I have tasted some awful ones).

[TrinityRhino]

what is a nut roast anyway?

is it just nuts?

[SlimJiminy]

I'm vegetarian, so this suggestion isn't down to personal experience, but can't he cook the turkey the day before and serve it cold? My meat-eating family serve cold turkey every year. Dad spends ages faffing around in the kitchen cooks it on Christmas Eve and it's served up with the cooked veg/potatoes/trimmings on Christmas Day. They've always done it that way to minimise the chaos on Christmas morning - say it makes no difference by the time it's covered in hot gravy anyway. Can't he do that?

[SlimJiminy]

TrinityRhino It's pretty much anything you might find in a veggie burger - could be carrots, courgettes, chopped tomatoes, spinach, beans, pulses, etc - but with bread and/or nuts too and cooked in a loaf tin, then served in slices.

[Purplepixiedust]

Any other day no, he should have what your are having but at Christmas he can have turkey. I am veggie and tended to get one or two of those small prepared turkey joints in a tray that you can pop in the oven. Just enough for dinner for a couple of meat eaters and a sandwich later. At one point MIL was cooking a turkey crown and bringing it with her.

If he can bring it pre cooked all the better. Just slice up then pop on oven to warm while you dish up.

[Janethegirl]

I detest reheated cold meat, the veggie option sounds preferable and I'm a committed meat eater

[LilyTheSlink]

Right, you lovely ladies. You've set me straight, filled me with Christmas spirit, and guess what I've done?

I've pre-ordered a posh turkey crown, and I will (attempt to) cook it for DB.

Such is the power of AIBU.

[EvansOvalPiesYumYum]

Oh, you gorgeous girl. Your darling brother will be most appreciative, I'm sure!!
Merry Christmas

[LilyTheSlink]

nocoolnamesleft
grumpasaur

[LilyTheSlink]

That's very kind of you Evans

[Thumbwitch]

Oh Lily - that's VERY kind of you! Your brother will be very happy he doesn't have to lug turkey with him to your house! Turkey crowns usually come with full instructions so you should be all right.

[MillionToOneChances]

I'm a bit baffled how you'll find oven time for it, but good luck to you! I'm sure your DB will appreciate it.

[grumpasaur]

Hooray! I love the spirit of Christmas!!