To ask how much you parents spend on your dc's at Xmas

[Kab13]

I feel £200 on a 22mo is a bit excessive? I don't think we would even spend that on dd...
By all means, put some aside for savings for dd but £200 on a tou kitchen? Don't they say kids get more expensive when they get older?
Concerned she's going to expect an iPad by the time she's 3 if they spend this on Xmas now.
I'd say £100 for Xmas is PLENTY.
Opinions?

My parents spend £50 each on my 12 & 9 year old DC.

I know this because i'm expected to come up with a list of things they'd like, then at the last minute my mum (retired with no hobbies) decides she's too busy to go Christmas shopping and asks me (full time job & a dh who often works away) to do the shopping for her.

I'd guess my MIL spends somewhere in the region of £150 per child but they are they are her only grandchildren.

i thihnk your being un reasonable, esspcially because you say if her bithday was later on itbe different.

i have two boys, one whos bday is middle of november and one whos is 4 days after christmas. i save through out the year, its not his fault he was born then.

also getting brought things doesnt make a child spoilt, its how they are brought up.

the past op who has a nephew who openly shows his disapointment is spoilt. my parents normally do buy alot for mine, last year they brought ds1 a tablet for his birthday, this year for his 9th he got a batman onsie as they are tight on money, he gave them a hug and thanked them for it and was just as happy, and on the off chance he was disapointed there is no way in hell he would show it, because he has manners!

point is kids dont care on price, just that its something that they will enjoy.
if it botherd you you could ask to go halfs with them?

My dad spends £40-50 on each of my sister's kids (I know because we sometimes go it together to get them something big) but they are teenagers ,I expect him to spend less than that on my Ds who will be 1 because, well, he's 1! I've no idea what OH's parents will spend on him but I've told them not to go too mad.

My parents used to buy my dss expensive gifts like that when they were the only gcs. I liked it at the time but now I wish I'd told them to put it in a savings account for them.

Grandparents often like to spend a lot on their grandchildren, especially when they are little, mine and DH's parents did, we just accepted and spent less ourselves as the Ps were so generous, I certainly wouldn't have tried to compete with them, that's when the children do end up spoilt. It sometimes used to annoy me though with the room some of these big plastic toys took up.

GPs spend about 10-20 pounds, but we are a big family and my mum has 10 GC to buy for plus 8 nephews and nieces.

We are all on tight budgets so very happy with that, always encourage my mum to spend less than a tenner if possible. But she saves for ages to get things for the Gc and she loves Christmas so that's her choice.

In fact across whole family we aim for about 5 pounds per person, and we pretty much keep to that. Just silly bits and bobs, or homemade things.

£100 sounds loads, TBH!

My mum is pretty generous (and only has 2 DGC) so she might spend maybe £30-£40. MIL is less generous (but also has 7 GDC) - last year DD got a Sylvanian Families car and caravan that she'd picked up in a car boot sale for £5. DD adores MIL, who she hardly sees - MIL is very maternal and All About The Children, whereas my mum is distinctly 'hands off'!

If all else is good with the relationship, I'd let her spend what she likes without comment, other than a 'wow! thank you!', of course.

My parents spend about £75 each on them. DH's parents spend £50 each. its more than enough and every year I struggle to come up with suggestions when they ask for them.

My parents give my children £15 each. My father-in-law gives them £25 each. I have to go & but the presents, and wrap them up!

We spend £30 each on the grandchildren. We only have two.

Okay. Regardless of when dds birthday I see would have done Xmas smaller. My family have always got lots of little nice things for Xmas and 1 big present for birthday. Because we have more people to buy for for Xmas, I have 6 nephews, 3 sisters, cousins, mother, mil and fil to buy for Xmas and it's a big expense all at once! Birthdays tend to be spread our through the year, it's easier to spend a bit more.
Yes, I've known for 22 months that it's my child's birthday but that doesn't negate the fact I will choose to spend more on her birthday than on Xmas as Xmas is EVERYONES day and her birthday is solely hers.
Just how I choose to do it, and I would still spend a fair amount and assure she has a lovely Xmas.
I actually think that asking for something smaller for Xmas and putting money aside for dd or taking her out for a special day out with her grandparents is really pretty fair.
I believe children shouldn't have hundreds of pounds spent on them from each set of grandparents for Xmas because regardless of whether they are grateful or not that's not what Xmas is about.
For her birthday by all means buy her a £200 kitchen but not for Xmas. I'm sorry, it's too much on a nearly 2 year old and think the world has been sucked into spending silly amounts of money every year.
It's not a competition, I said myself I would never be able to spend that and wouldn't do it even if I could it's a matter of teaching my child what Christmas is all about, which is spending time with family and receiving normal presents not the biggest most ridiculous thing her grandmother can find.
I guess it's all about tradition and traditionally in my family we don't go crazy on over the top statement gifts.

I don't ask. It's rude to look a gift horse in the mouth.

But... DD is both sides first and only. She is already getting spoiled, I don't think Christmas and her first birthday will be any different. She was getting Christmas presents when she was still a fetus.

If the grandparents want to spoil their GC's I'd say let them. They're just showing their love and affection towards them.

I got big presents from my godparents growing up, and I didn't grow up spoiled because my parents taught me to appreciate all presents big and small. Just teach them that the thought counts and it doesn't matter if they get a $5 gift or a $500 one.

20 max

Also, children don't understand monetary value until they're around double digits. If you want her to think you got her more, just get cheaper gifts and wrap them separately.