She wanted to light a candle in her room, it is of typical teenage landscape, clothes, papers and the like everywhere. I feel nervous of her leaving it unattended or knocking it over, she is abit clumsy.
I said she could light it whilst in the bath because then she could keep an eye on it.
She came down for her tea, about an hour went past when I could smell an extinguished candle. My youngest ds 6 said he blew it out.
I got very cross and told her to throw it away because she can't be trusted, (not a good reaction, I know I was annoyed, my baby is asleep in the next room). She is blaming me for not telling her it couldn't be left. I bloody well did and besides if she needs this pointing out, surely she is too young to understand basic safety with candles.
I feel like a big cow pat and she is sulking.
AIBU? Would you give another chance?