Or is this a bit sharp?

[babymincepie]

Have been trying to lose weight since July and have concluded I am failing miserably. I ended up sending a miserable text to the leader of the WL class explaining that while she'd been really helpful the problem was evidently with me and there was no point in me going as I was only getting fatter.

She replied that the club would be there "when I decide being healthy is important'

Am I being sensitive or is that a little - mean?

(I probably am BU :) )

She has a point this just isn't about your looks its about you health.

Your.

Ooft. Pulling no punches there! I'd be inclined to take my custom elsewhere, if ur not getting results anyway and as much as I know nothing about running a slimming club I'm fairly sure she makes some money from you attending so is probably more interested in the pay check than your health/state of mind?!
Try something else and keep your chin up, it's not easy but it'll be worth it :)

Well with that quality of support...

I think I'd hear that in a somewhat passive-aggressive tone. You presumably signed up and made an effort precisely because you decided being healthy was important - we all know this, but it doesn't translate straightforwardly into automatically healthy behaviour, and losing weight is a very obvious example.

What did you actually want as a response, though? Did you genuinely want to leave with her blessing, or for her to urge you to keep going and motivate you?

I think it is a little... snarky, possibly. but on the other hand, perhaps she knows that sometimes, pointedly drawing a line in the sand will have more meaning/effect than just a bland "that's ok, you can rejoin at any time... "

Sometimes, it's the cruel to be kind comments that eventually do motivate.

Try Googling Banting. Its huge here in South Africa.

That would put my back up somewhat.

It is a little bit mean, is that her usual approach?

Wallop!

I'd be livid if I got that as a response. You are presumably a paying client? Could you imagine getting something similar from someone else you buy a service from?

Cheeky fucker.

That was horrible . I would never go back again.

She's only worried about her loss of earnings anyway!!!

I genuinely didn't think of a response - I just wanted to let her know that I wouldn't be going as her opening it is dependent on the no of people showing up so i didn't want her going only for no one to be there if you see what I mean.

I know it's health as well as looks but I was just honestly finding it impossible to stick to and the weekly weigh in was exacerbating issues as I was thinking 'oh, fuck it' I've gained a stone since I joined which is dreadful, I know! The irony is that I wasn't even that overweight when I joined, and now I am!

She's got a point. You say you're failing so presumably you're not doing enough activity and/or eating too much. Maybe something else needs to motivate you and sometimes harsh comments do that.

Please reply and say, "I knew you'd understand. health really is SO jmportant, that's why I'm going to slimming world (or any other rival!)

What a snarky puss. If and when you decide you want to lose weight for yourself, for whatever reason, in a setting with others, then give her the swerve and find another group. I don't know why some diet group organisers still model themselves on Marjory Dawes.

With an attitude like that its amazing that she has any clients at all .

I think it is a bit sharp but do you think it may also be a bit true if you have put on a stone since joining?

Oh, you should totally tell her you weren't overweight when you started!

Haha - yes, what Inspiration said...

There's some truth in it insofar as obviously I haven't stuck at all very well to the diet.

The problems are that I started a new and demanding role in September and this really limited the time I had to exercise. Also, I damaged my sciatic nerve badly last month and it was difficult to walk never mind exercise! Exercise doesn't massively help me with weight loss but it does help minimise the damage if you like if I do have a blowout.

Then due to new job stress and being sad (recent bereavement) I have been comfort eating and when I thought about weigh in panicked which sort of sent me the other way, which is why I'm trying the "relaxed" (ahem) approach, I do know I'm a fat failure but I say this to myself often enough! no one else needs to.

If you have put on a stone since joining a weight loss scheme you are not exactly getting what you pay for are you?

I think her attitude needs some work. I wouldn't go back and I'd explain to her why.

That is definitely not on, and very passive-aggressive as a response.

There must be other groups in your area that might be more suited to you?