Or is this a bit sharp?

[babymincepie]

Have been trying to lose weight since July and have concluded I am failing miserably. I ended up sending a miserable text to the leader of the WL class explaining that while she'd been really helpful the problem was evidently with me and there was no point in me going as I was only getting fatter.

She replied that the club would be there "when I decide being healthy is important'

Am I being sensitive or is that a little - mean?

(I probably am BU :) )

YANBU. That is really rude.

FFS your weight is not the same thing as your health. You sound like you've had a crappy stressful time and worrying about weigh in doesn't help you.

I would be tempted to reply 'thanks fatty' But I am VERY immature.

Very sneery. And clearly putting the blame on you rather than on her weight loss techniques.

Maybe the thing to do is not join a weight loss class but just do it in your own time. The thing about weight watchers etc is that people lose weight but then put it all back on again. It's all about long term changes to diet. (I expect you know this already.)

It's a bit sharp, but it doesn't surprise me, I've heard of similar from weight loss people.. Explain that things have got so much worse since you joined her class so it is obviously not helpful for you / not good for your health.

You've put on a stone? Well that can't have happened overnight. Clearly the comfort eating has been going on for a while.

That leader must be seriously crap at her job to either not notice or to not work with you on strategies that suit your particular circumstances.

Sounds like you were better off without the stupid class in the first place.

You are not a fat failure btw. You are a person who put on a bit of weight when injured and upset. Soon you will be feeling better physically and emotionally and no doubt the weight loss will follow. Chill.

And never go back to the stupid class. And leave a review somewhere saying that you put on a stone at the stupid class.

Hmm. I think I would have expected something more encouraging if she wants to entice you back.

Sounds horrible - if talking to people that way helped at all, everyone would have perfect BMI and be healthy as all get out. If she hasn't realised that trying to make you feel bad about yourself is unlikely to help, then I can't imagine that you will get much out of her 'support'. I would reply telling her that you value your mental as well as your physical health and for that reason you have chosen to surround yourself with more positive influences than her. Good luck - you sound like you're suffering a temporary blip, but you aren't a failure because you're in need of some comfort.

That's hardly an inspirational message is it? Or the sort of response that would make you want to return to the group. So it comes across as totally counterproductive.

If she's that passive aggressive in the meetings, I'm not so surprised you haven't found them helpful in losing weight.

Putting on a stone since you started the classes is a lot, though - can you pinpoint what exactly it is about them/the diet/your mindset since you began that is causing you to overeat more? Or is it simply the extra stresses you are talking about? Because a good class/WL counsellor should be able to address that and help you find other ways of dealing with stress.

I guess it depends on what you put in the text to her? If it was sarcastic I can understand her response. Otherwise it was definitely rude.

What a nasty and unconstructive thing to say to you. It's also very poor business sense, since I expect she relies at least partly on word of mouth.

In terms of managing your weight, I've always found that I manage mine far better with diet than exercise. I've had success with 5:2 (lost 3 stone!) and have recently lost about a dress size (didn't initially weigh myself as too scared to quantify the damage ) as a result of going diary-free. I really think that going dairy-free (and consequently, mass-produced cake-and-biscuit-and-ice cream-and-cream-and-cheese-free) has made a world of difference to my waistline. Maybe try that!

Also, at least you're aware of the problem and trying to sort it out. That is a major first step so don't be dismayed by bitches

I also suggest that you send her this:

Thanks for your response. I do think "being healthy is important" and so I have decided to try and select a weight-loss approach that actually works for me at this point of my life/career. Maybe your approach will work for me in the future, but it's not suitable now. Thanks again, babymincepie.

Yanbu

YANBU
Cheeky mare. I have no doubt that your health is very important to you, and was one reason that you were there in the first place.
It can be very very difficult to lose weight (I know, I've been there; in fact I am there!) but having difficulty with something does not mean that it's not important to you. She should have been more supportive and encouraging.

If you decide that returning to a group will be helpful, do please choose another one.