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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to book a day off work while the kids are at nursery

50 replies

PeppaPigStinks · 10/11/2014 13:42

I am tired. I need a day to myself, to do nothing!
My children go to nursery for the whole day of one of my working days. The other two days I work they spend with grandparents. Almost all of my leave has been used to take days off when GPs decide they want to do something else (fair enough - they are entitled to their own time as well but don't understand we have to work AND its their choice to look after the kids as I have offered to put them in nursery.)

but AIBU to book a day off when no else is at home and have a day on my own? I feel like I should do something constructive with my leave or that I should use the time to do something with the family!

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Only1scoop · 10/11/2014 13:44

Blimey no....hope you've already booked it.

middlethird · 10/11/2014 13:44

Not in the slightest! YADNBU

Enjoy your day off!! Grin

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 10/11/2014 13:46

Def not - go for it!

Will the nursery consider letting you book the occasional extra day when the GPs aren't available? Sounds like you could do with an alternative to covering it all with annual leave?

CromerSutra · 10/11/2014 13:46

Do it. There is nothing wrong with having a bit of time to yourself. It makes you happier and in turn a better parent.

Coolas · 10/11/2014 13:47

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Timeforabiscuit · 10/11/2014 13:49

Absolutely! I'd kill for a mooch day (only a slight exaggeration).

Book it without speaking aloud otherwise the kids get I'll - bitter experience Sad

Kalinka16 · 10/11/2014 13:49

Not unreasonable at all... But plan something great in for yourself. I usually do a day at the spa in such circumstances :-)

Saltedcaramel2014 · 10/11/2014 13:51

Do it! I'm doing it right now. Had a nap, read book, drank tea and now actually can't wait to pick DS up. No laundry. No cleaning. No chores. Just relax. You'll be a better mum and employee for it.

MangoBiscuit · 10/11/2014 13:52

YANBU at all. Sounds like it might be your only "day off" all year. :)

That said, I would feel the guilt too. I would pick one job to do that's a pain in the arse to do with the DCs at home, that looks good when it's done. (tidying / reorganising the wardrobe for example) do that, then book the rest of my day with things for me. Nice long soak in the bath, cup of tea and a boxset, do my nails, whatever I fancied, making damn sure I had plenty of rest. To pinch a phrase from a friend and fellow MNer, Relentless Self Care! You need to make sure you take time to look after yourself, not just everyone else.

catgirl1976 · 10/11/2014 13:52

Good god YANBU.

I do it as often as I can, which in reality is once every couple of months. I love it. Even if I do very little. Sometimes I end up cleaning the house like an idiot, but if I manage a day just lolling around, reaidng, having a bath without a small person screaming "MUMMMMMMY" up the stairs on a loop, I am a very happy bunny.

LadyLuck10 · 10/11/2014 13:53

Yanbu! Even mums need a day for themselves. Enjoy and don't feel bad.

Iggly · 10/11/2014 13:54

YANBU

I do this all the time

MillionToOneChances · 10/11/2014 13:55

YADBU and, as a previous poster said, check whether nursery could cover occasional extra days. You don't know whether other kids may be on holiday - worth a go!

MillionToOneChances · 10/11/2014 13:56

*YAD-N-BU Blush

Lochdubh · 10/11/2014 13:59

My DH and I took a whole week off while our DC stayed at nursery. We did loads of chores, but took time for a boozy lunch, coffee and cake and a lie in. Even with the 'working' part, it's one of the best holidays I've ever had :) thoroughly recommend it.

WowserBowser · 10/11/2014 14:02

I would definitely say go for it! Give yourself a break.

Gunpowder · 10/11/2014 14:07

DO IT!

WineSpider · 10/11/2014 14:10

Are you kidding?! Do it!!

I did last week and got some Christmas shopping done, went to the hairdresser and had a lovely long bath. I felt like a new woman afterwards!

MamaMed · 10/11/2014 14:50

Yadnbu. Do it and enjoy it! Grin

Heels99 · 10/11/2014 14:51

Do it, but don't spend all day catching up on chores. Have some down time.

theeternalstudent · 10/11/2014 14:52

Absolutely do it. There should be one rule however - no housework!

HKat · 10/11/2014 15:00

Agree with everyone else -def not unreasonable! DP and I try to do this every few months and use the time to pop out for lunch or go to the cinema. We have no help with childcare die to family living miles away so it's a must as far as we're concerned!

PeppaPigStinks · 10/11/2014 15:05

Ok thanks - I am going to do it!
thank you - I don't feel half as bad now.

my friend has made me a voucher for her beauty therapy business so I think I will cash that in with her! although even that feels a little too social for what I am craving.

As an example of how bad I look - I have hairy-er eyebrows than the gorilla in 'That's not my monkey' (..... its eyebrows are too hairy). Shock

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Saltedcaramel2014 · 10/11/2014 15:06

Ha ha. Sounds like the perfect way to spend your day. Enjoy it, and not a moment's guilt please :)

SecretSpy · 10/11/2014 15:09

My children are currently in the After School Club

I'm not at work Smile I am tired though and need a little bit of peace ( I worked 21 hours over the weekend in my defence)