Wedding anniversary expectations

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I'm going to try and keep this one neutral...

If you had a big wedding with all your friends and family there, would you then expect them to remember the date and send you a card for your first anniversary at least? What about subsequent anniversaries?

No. No cards.

No. DH and I even forgot this year! In our defence, we had a newborn baby

Definitely not. Would only do it if invited to a landmark anniversary party.

I don't even remember my wedding anniversary. I wouldn't expect anyone else to remember.

PILs send a card. My DM has forgotten the date of her own wedding, let alone mine. DH and I don't always remember it either.

The date of your wedding isn't interesting to anyone else but you. And not necessarily you

No...don't expect anyone else to remember my anniversary. Parents and grandparents did send a card on our 1st anniversary, and PILs send a card every year.

Dh and me sometimes send each other card, but often not - often away anyway. We don't really do anything in particular to celebrate it either.

No. Never. I rarely remember my own. Certainly don't remember anyone else's. I certainly wouldn't expect anyone to remember mine

A year after our wedding, I had a phonecall from my SIL. "I'm so sorry, I forgot to send you a card," she said.

I said, "What for?"

I wouldn't expect anyone to remember, including me and DH - I have to look the date up if someone asks. What matters is the marriage, not the wedding.

I was very surprised when someone actually remembered my 10th wedding anniversary, no one has ever remembered any others, generally including dh and I.

We are planning on remembering out 25th coming up soon (slipped up on the 20th - oops), but don't expect anyone else to.

I have never remembered anyone else's wedding anniversary, apart from a few big ones (25, 50) from very close family.

My closest family do send cards to eachother for their anniversaries, I send them cards too. So I would think they would do the same for me.

But I'm talking my parents and sibling.

Wouldn't expect anybody else to.

I just think it is a nice thing to do and I like to do it. I don't agree with sending cards for every anniversary but for the 1st, 10th, 25th etc. I will send one (and sometimes a gift for close friends and family. )