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To want to do my fireworks on remembrance sunday?

66 replies

Niamhisnotarealname · 09/11/2014 13:30

It was always planned for tonight, best weather conditions over the weekend for where I am and all that.

However I'v just remembered that its remembrance Sunday today. Am I going to come across as totally insensitive?

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pudcat · 09/11/2014 14:15

I think its very funny that some people are getting their knickers in such a twist. its only a few fountains, sparklers and catherine wheels. Standard garden fireworks
Not round here it wasn't last night. Neighbours across the road sounded as if they were starting WW3.

Years ago Bonfire night was held on 5th only - unless that was a Sunday and then it was held on the Saturday. The poor animals are now terrified for nights on end.

LikeTheShoes · 09/11/2014 14:15

as long as you didn't set them off during the silence, whatever.

OddBoots · 09/11/2014 14:19

I'm not sure Remembrance Sunday matters in terms of fireworks, there are former service people for whom fireworks are triggering of some of the symptoms of PTSD but that would be the same whatever day.

Hulababy · 09/11/2014 14:19

We went to a bonfire party last night and it would appear that many people around the city held firework/bonfire parties last night too.

IME that has always been the case, even when I was growing up several years back. The weekend closest to bonfire night was when people held their parties.

People often don't hold midweek displays when the 5th November is then due to work/school commitments and avoiding late nights, etc.

I do think the Sunday night is an unusual choice though - Friday or Saturday makes most sense, again due to work/school the next day.

BlinkAndMiss · 09/11/2014 14:19

I think it's disrespectful, today is about reflection and commemoration not an excuse for a loud party. Bonfire night was last week, I'm not sure why we should have to expect it to go on for 3 weekends.

divingoffthebalcony · 09/11/2014 14:20

Our local town display was last night. I fully expect to hear fireworks tonight as well. I'm surprised so many people are outraged at the idea of fireworks being set off on any day other than November 5th. That was never the case when I was a child in the 80s, and it certainly isn't the case now.

BlinkAndMiss · 09/11/2014 14:20

And plenty of places hold midweek displays, I fact everywhere that would have a display had one round here. Because it was bonfire night.

Hulababy · 09/11/2014 14:22

And yes, plenty of official displays the weekend before and the weekend after 5th November ime - and this is not just recent. It was happening in the 70s and 80s too.

It is only 4 days after the 5th, even if held today.

But then we hear fireworks at other times of the year too - NYE Chinese New Year, Eid, Diwali, etc.

simontowers2 · 09/11/2014 14:23

I have a dog who is petrified of them. For two weeks now he has been wedged behind the sofa every night. It's a pain in the arse, utterly selfish that this has gone on so long. It should be one day a year, but more than that, people should grow the fuck up, this obsession with watching small exposives go off is pathetic.

PiperIsOrangePumpkins · 09/11/2014 14:25

I think you wouldn't celebrate Christmas or New Years ect on a different day so why bonfire night.

Niamhisnotarealname · 09/11/2014 14:30

piper we also usually celebrate Christmas on a different day each year due to work and family commitments, sometimes as late as January! should I not have Christmas decorations up for this or my Christmas lights up outside the house due to the potential of offending the neighbours?

Some people are such miserable bastards.

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Hulababy · 09/11/2014 14:31

Piper - people do celebrate Christmas on different days.

There was a MNetter on a thread yesterday who celebrated Christmas this weekend as her partner (forces I think) would be away for the actual date.

Often people celebrate Christmas over a series of days with different members of the family/friends - eating and drinking together, exchanging gifts, playing Christmas music, etc.

Infact, I will be celebrating Christmas early in a couple of weeks with my work christmas party.

TheFairyCaravan · 09/11/2014 14:32

It's Bonfire night not Bonfire week or fortnight, the clue is in the name.

I bloody sick of hearing fireworks now. I don't care if that makes me a miserable bastard, I'd rathe that than be a selfish bastard tbh!

simontowers2 · 09/11/2014 14:34

The main problem is that fireworks have got louder. I am certain of that. It's one of life's great mysteries that in this age of health and safety obsession, shops are allowed to sell this things, generally to people who aren't that bright. I watched my dog literally piss with fear this year when a stupdily loud firework went off a few doors away. People are well aware now of the misery these things cause to thousands of animals, particularly the poor ones in dog homes who have nobody to comfort them. And yet they continue to let them off. I just dont get it, wtf is wrong with these morons?

FreeSpirit89 · 09/11/2014 14:34

We had people letting them off her since 10am! Idiots.

Me, my DC and our dog has had enough of fireworks this year

Floralnomad · 09/11/2014 14:34

blinkandmiss , so if it was your child's birthday today you wouldn't celebrate because its Remembrance Sunday ?

Rosa · 09/11/2014 14:35

Well as long as you are not like the complete fuckwit excuse of a neighbour to my parents who had a massive display sending them off on the direction of a thatched cottage with 2 pensioners inside,
The firework shells were landing on the roof....

These 'neighbours'never thought ....so many don't. As a result these people diddn't get any sleep as they were worried something might have got wedged in the thatch and was smouldering. Complete twats.

MasqueradeWaltzer · 09/11/2014 14:35

PILs have decided they're doing theirs tonight, and we have to go Hmm.

Was planned for last night, but they decided the weather was no good for it. We've already been to the big municipal show on the beach on Nov 5th and sticking with that would be absolutely fine with me.

Fireworks have been going off round here since Halloween.

simontowers2 · 09/11/2014 14:36

The difference is niam that when you celebrate xmas doesn't impact on others. When you celebrate bonefore night does. Is that really so difficult to understand?

mumwithanipad · 09/11/2014 14:39

I like a good display as much as the next but it gets boring and annoying night after night. Where I live it's two weeks before and two weeks after the 5th that people are setting the things off, between 5pm and 1am. I don't have a pet thats scared, my dd isn't scared, I just get fed up of listening to them. Night after night for a month from various directions. I can hear some now and it's only 2.30pm!

I know they get used for other event such as New Year's Eve, but that's on New Year's Eve or actual date of the event itself, not a week later. I think if I told someone I was celebrating the new year with fireworks a week into January and they should expect them I'd think most would say I'm unreasonable.

People know when the organised ones are, they have warning, so even if they are the weekend after people who will be affected by them can make arrangements for pets etc, OP might be a nice neighbour and let them know but so so many are not and I don't think people should assume fireworks will be going off around them to celebrate an occasion that passed. You wouldn't expect them a week after new year etc so why the 5th November ?

GoodboyBindleFeatherstone · 09/11/2014 14:41

You can't hear Xmas decorations over the telly, and they don't stop the neighbours from sleeping or scare animals and children.

Fireworks do.

If you want to do it - knock yourself out and carry on, but don't be surprised if your neighbours hate you.

FrauHelgaMissMarpleandaChuckle · 09/11/2014 14:44

Do you set fire to your Christmas decorations in your garden?

Niamhisnotarealname · 09/11/2014 14:47

occasionally frauhelga i though everyone did it as a christmas tradition?

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Jolleigh · 09/11/2014 14:48

YY to the 'don't be surprised if your neighbours hate you'. I've fallen out with a neighbour this year for letting off a very loud firework on the tiny patch of grass outside my flat at 10:30pm knowing I have a 7 month old. I went absolutely mad at him and it took me an hour to resettle the baby who awoke scared and screaming.

I believe they should be illegal outside of organised displays but failing that, people buying them should really learn some consideration.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 09/11/2014 14:48

Our village display is tonight, postponed from last night due to the weather. I think the weekends either side of the 5th are normal for it.