To think my DM has lost too much weight and needs to stop now?

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My mum has been dieting with a well known national slimming chain for over a year now. I believe what started out with good intentions has got out of control and become an obsession. She's over a stone lighter than she was when she started which sounds good but she was only ever slightly overweight to begin with and has never been obese. She's absolutely militant about what she eats, and has now taken to skipping lunch and cutting out all snacks which is unhealthy.

Her weight loss has now plateaued and she's become frustrated because she's adamant she wants to loose another half stone, she refused to accept it's because maybe she doesn't need to lose anymore. She's often tired, snappy and irritable with people which I believe is down to hunger and I dare say a loss of nutrients, I wouldn't be surprised if she's not given herself a deficiency. She's also gone to look really haggard and drawn, she's 60 years of age and as harsh as this sounds when you get older you can't get away with a huge weight loss, especially when you didn't need to loose that much in the first place.

I don't know how to address this though.She was absolutely furious when my Aunt (her DSIS) told her that she'd gone to look haggard. But she's right, she has gone to look haggard and I'm now also concerned about her well being.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

The common denominator in these commenters seems to be that they preferred me fat, and that me refusing a glass of wine or some cake makes them feel bad about accepting.

People panic when they see their loved ones losing weight. They are so used to them fat that they can't imagine them any other way.

So they end up sabotaging them in verbal ways:
'You should stop now'
'Enoughs enough'
'You don't want to lose too much weight'.

They say the same thing happens with people that try to give up smoking or alcohol. The person is nagged for years and years and when they eventually DO decide to do something about it, the person doing the nagging panics and will start piling added stress on the person, (or leave fags lying) around, so that the person is doomed to failure.

These people are nothing better than enablers.

I think you have probably got used to seeing her a certain size and that is why she looks gaunt to you now, but she is probably a healthier weight than she was before.

I agree!
Very fat people usually have fewer wrinkles because their faces are so puffed up and moon-shaped (although double chins, buried eyes and no definition of facial contours is also unattractive imo), but hey ho, each to their own.