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Poppy wearing

168 replies

HappyAgainOneDay · 07/11/2014 16:50

I was in town today and waited for a friend who didn't turn up because she'd forgotten for half an hour. Opposite me in a shopping Mall was a poppy table and two servicemen behind it. I began to look at people passing and was amazed at the huge number of people who were not wearing a poppy. Far more were not sporting a poppy than those who were.

I then realised that those without poppies were mostly on the younger side of the population - say, 40 and younger. Do they not realise what we are remembering? Yes, the poppies represent those who died but the general reason for the charity now is that the funds collected go to service people who've lost limbs or are otherwise disabled. The families of those who never came back are also helped. AIBU for thinking that more should wear a poppy with pride?

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Smukogrig · 10/11/2014 11:48

I hate all the analysis. Wear one, don't wear one, but don't comment on what other people are doing and don't defend wearing one and don't defend not wearing one. I wear one if I remember/see a seller but I'm not from the UK. Irish people living in the UK always end up tripping themselves up in knots over the issue.

ApocalypseThen · 10/11/2014 11:49

I think James McClean should not be obliged to expain himself. It's appalling that he feels he should. How divorced from the reality of their own recent history do the British public need to be to have to have it spelled out to them why someone from Derry would not care to wear a poppy? If the British Legion want to offer support to soldiers who may have been in Derry that day, it is their right. But to expect people of Derry to contribute support or money is actually obscene.

Smukogrig · 10/11/2014 11:49

oh yes, kendoddsdadsdog that's exactly what i meant, i cringed at him writing the letter. don't explain a personal choice!!!

ConkerTime · 10/11/2014 12:01

Well I just read James McClean's letter and he put his point of view very well and if it adds to other people's understanding that is a good thing. No one has to explain a personal choice but it can help understanding if our reasons are shared in a respectful way.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 10/11/2014 12:07

I just think it was forced by baying crowds in previous years. I wouldn't have to explain whether I wear one in my job or not .
Anyhow , it's going to build and build and takes away from the point of it all.

Behoove · 10/11/2014 12:09

I didn't say the ambassador laid a poppy wreath deliberately. It was more the fact that he took part in the ceremony and paid his respects. I'm sure if anyone is aware of recent history of Derry it would be an ambassador of Ireland.

However, I'm not arguing. The footballer is entitled to his opinion. Some posters support his stance as they are entitled to do. I don't support his stance, as I am entitled to do. That's the benefit of living in a free country.

BarbarianMum · 10/11/2014 13:15

So am I the only person who faithfully buys a poppy each year then loses it about 15 min later? Or puts it on 1 coat then the next day wears another? Really?

SolidGoldBrass · 10/11/2014 14:00

I thought that footballer's letter was very impressive. The fact that he was booed and abused by the crowd, and the way some TV presenters get ripped to bits for not wearing poppies, is the sort of thing that makes me impatient with all the wankers (like the OP) wailing on about 'disrespect' and behaving as though it's compulsory to wear a flimsy red paper flower.

sickntiredtoo · 10/11/2014 14:10

I have a 19 yo son.If he had had the misfortune to have been born 100 years earlier he would have been sent over the top to futiley run towards a line of men shooting machine guns at him. The officers were toffs who paid for their commission and knew nothing about warfare and cared nothing for the hundreds of thousands of sons, fathers, brothers who were treated as nothing more than cannon fodder.
Op I suggest you look at your DC and imagine them lying hours in agony bleeding to death in the mud.
We must NEVER forget and that is why I wear my poppy with pride

sickntiredtoo · 10/11/2014 14:14

'No one should feel forced or bullied into wearing a Poppy'

Do you see the irony in that?
We have the freedoms we have because of those servicemen we are remembering by wearing a poppy

HappyAgainOneDay · 10/11/2014 14:15

I back you sickntiredtoo. My feelings exactly.

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BarbarianMum · 10/11/2014 14:43

No I don't see the irony, explain it to me.

I wear a poppy to honour the sacrifice made on behalf of my country but men and women who died fighting for it. That doesn't mean I believe every war in the last hundred years was a war ' for our freedom' or even for a worthy and just cause.

When the First World War was fought women didn't have the vote and Britain was merrily oppressing and exploiting people across the world. We may have sacrificed all those young men to preserve our way of life and that of our allies but it wasnt for the causes of truth, justice and equality amd democracy.

BarbarianMum · 10/11/2014 14:44

...by men and women.....

Callani · 10/11/2014 15:25

I'd rather people didn't wear the poppy and acknowledged the two minute silence as opposed to the family I saw at the cenotaph yesterday, all decked out with poppies, taking photo after photo of themselves during the remembrance speeches whilst everyone else tried to ignore them and listen to what was being said.

It is possible to not wear a poppy and remember - it is equally possible to wear a poppy and be completely ignorant.

MrsJossNaylor · 10/11/2014 16:16

"Op I suggest you look at your DC and imagine them lying hours in agony bleeding to death in the mud"

Oh for goodness' sake. Really. Really?

Pages of intelligent arguments on both sides of the debate, yet people still wade in with this sort of nonsense.

Outfield · 10/11/2014 20:56

ApocalypseThen, that was very well put. saoirse too.

The poppy symbolism is beloved of the same loyalist bigots in Northern Ireland who like flying Para Regiment flags in Derry on the anniversary of Bloody Sunday. This is the kind of bile spouted by them on Remembrance Day: [Along with photos representing the SAS, the Parachute Regiment and the UDR ] "3 regiments that played a fantastic roll in defeating the ira and defending our right to remain british. pity their hands where tied at times or the head count would have been a lot higher good times.
fuck the irish republican movement.
FOREVER BRITISH" - From the 'Carrickfergus United Loyalists' Facebook Page.

In honour of the occasion, loyalist murals sometimes get painted around Remembrance Day full of poppies, and UVF terrorists standing proudly among those to be honoured for their 'defence of the Union'. The UVF's preferred way of defending the Union was by shooting, kidnapping, torturing and murdering Catholic civilians in Northern Ireland. What heroes. This may not be as well known to the British public as the atrocities commited by the (also disgusting) Provisional IRA, but that's only because your media wasn't as likely to give airtime to murders where the victims were only Irish Catholics anyway.

People from places where they or their parents had to grow up with armed soldiers on the streets (sometimes protecting them, sometimes harrassing them, sometimes trying to kill them) are likely to understand that while some people joined the forces in the past without any choice, and today some join out of a desire to protect freedoms and serve their country, and some do it because it's a job and an income and they have few career options, there are still others who join up because they are sadistic assholes who like the idea of being issued with a gun and having power over other people. That's true of course of every army in the World. Becoming a soldier does not make a person a hero.

Yes, it's unfortunate for the good and decent and brave people who have served in the British Army (and I'm sure there are many who fit that description) that the symbol of the poppy has come, for many Irish people especially in Northern Ireland, to be associated with historical oppression and ongoing denigration of Irish civilians by some British soldiers and those who worship them here. But the fact is, that is the association that it has here, so to criticise someone like James McClean without understanding that is just plain ignorant. It isn't his fault that the poppy has taken on that meaning, it's the fault of the British soldiers who chose to fire into a crowd of civil rights protesters, and of loyalists - soooo proud to call themselves British - who like to equate the actions of WWI and WWII soldiers with the actions of people who do this (not a graphic link - it's just wiki).

I find it really heartening that James McClean has received a lot of support on the Wigan FB page, including from former British soldiers who served in NI and therefore have some understanding of the dynamics at play. The understanding response from some on this thread is also really nice to see.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 10/11/2014 21:03

Well written outfield.

Celticlass2 · 10/11/2014 21:13

Brilliant outfield

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