Possibly got basal cell carcinoma and dh unhelpful about appointment

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I'm fairly sure I've got a bcc (skin cancer) on my shoulder - wont bore you with the details but it's textbook. I have suspected something awry for a while but couldn't see it properly and buried my head in the sand for about six months.
Anyway dh said I should get it looked at so I am planning on getting an appointment tomorrow. My dc2 is poorly with a fluey type bug no sickness (yet!) But feeling hot and feeling a bit sick. I asked if he would have a spare hour to watch her whilst I go to the doctors. He basically said no, he's a secondary school teacher and then has a meeting after school about a trip (that hes going on but not leading). I'll have to take dc2 and dc 3 with me. The doctor is at the end of our road and we live literally next door to the school so he often is home in the day to collect marking or work during free periods.
I'm kind of annoyed really, and a bit upset that despite us both agreeing that it looks dodgy, fits classic symptoms and presumably will mean a bit of minor surgery or treatment or whatever he won't step in and help for an hour. The meeting isnt critical, he has a couple of free periods and his head is reasonable over organising cover.
I'm genuinely unsure if iabu - weighing up the potential hassle factor for him against me being too needy. Im a sahm.

Poopoo, whether or not it's dramatic phrasing, it's still factually correct, however your dermatologist choices to phrase it to avoid panicking people.

And yes, while I have every sympathy for you, sanfairy, you maybe should stop posting on this thread since your horribly painful and traumatic personal situation is obviously making it hard for you to be sympathetic or objective with the OP. Especially if you're finding it upsetting - up to you, of course. I usually hide threads that really rile me up because they're not worth the added stress.

StarlingMurmuration cancer is such an emotive word and the OP is using this for dramatic affect. Factually correct or not, she is U for using the C word for something that is really not serious at all.

Anyway the main point of my post was to explain to you that BCCs are not 'relatively' less serious than the other two forms of skin cancer, especially not melanoma, as you had incorrectly stated in your post.

And your comment to sanfairyanne is extremely patronising.

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I thought I was giving her some good advice based on my own experience of getting upset by threads on eg the disabled. As no doubt you thought you were giving the OP good advice rather than minimising her fears, Poopoo. I'd say the OP is panicking, not dramatising, but potayto, potahto.

Big difference is the OP was asking for advice. Sanfairyanne was not.

Feel free to report me if you think I posted in bad faith.

Has it been established what is actually wrong with the OP - by a medical professional I mean, not her own self-diagnosis? Because if not much of this discussion is entirely moot.

No the op agreed she may be being dramatic and went off for cocoa 2 days ago now everyone's just arguing amongst themselves

Starling I don't think you have quite got the point of AIBU, the general idea is that people offer their opinions and we have a debate. Why on earth would I want to report you. If you get so riled that you have to hide threads maybe AIBU isn't for you.

Yes, and we're having a debate about whether BCC is a cancer (btw, the clue is in the name). It wasn't I who said maybe I should stop posting on this thread! I'm pretty sure I've got the grasp of what AIBU is about, and I'm also sure that I have the self-control to remove myself from a debate when the OP has upset me due to my personal circumstances. As clearly is happening with some posters here.

how did it go op?