"Yes I know exactly why FB has a 13 limit. That has nothing whatever to do with my point. Which is that you are teaching the child that it's OK to tell lies in order to get what they want. Do you really think that's acceptable?"
Yes, I don't really care tbh. Have you never recorded a programme off the tv and kept it indefinitely (or at least kept it after having watched it), copied a friend's cd, reused a stamp or parked your car partly on the pavement? All of these acts are illegal and if you do it, you've broken the law. And if you've ever done that with your child - then by your reasoning, you have encouraged your child to break the law too.
The average Briton breaks the law on average seven times a week. We break the rules and laws all the time. No-one follows the rules all the time, and tbh I think it is naive to teach our children to just follow the rules. I don't even think it is healthy to do this. I don't think blindly following the rules is necessarily the best way forward - and indeed, it certainly wasn't a defence at the Nuremberg trials! Okay, an extreme example but we all know jobsworths who follow the rules to the letter, but are basically idiots.
www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/3044794/How-we-all-break-the-law-every-day.html
And as for lying, well given that the average person lies on average 3 - 6 times a day, I again think it is naive to think that we do not lie or that our children do not lie. Sometimes I even encourage my children to lie (say thank you for the present you hated and say something nice about it, don't tell the child in your class that you hate them when asked even if it is true, don't tell the child that wasn't invited to the party that she was the only girl not invited when asked and so on...).
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1213171/Men-lie-times-day-twice-women-study-finds.html
I'd rather teach my child to take responsibility for the choices she makes, and to think about why she chooses to follow or break the rules. I'd prefer to teach her the difference between mala in se and mala prohibita crimes, to think about the consequence of her actions and to take responsibility for them. But then, I am an existentialist and I think there are far more important things in life than blindly following the rules. Blindly following the rules does not make you a good person, taking responsibility for your actions and being the best person you can be is far more important in my view.
So to answer your question, It doesn't bother me that a child lies per se, I'd rather she thought about why she is telling a lie and takes ownership of the actions she takes, within an existentialist framework. I'd much rather my daughter was able to maturely make responsible and sensible decisions rather than naively following the rules without moral thought or question.
But each to their own I guess.