To think SIL is rude?

[Toastonmarmite]

Short version. Looked after SIL's 3 children last week for the whole afternoon - not a problem, they're delightful and love spending time with them! Later in the evening I sent her a text just to say we'd had fun etc, short and to the point. She didn't reply to ask how they had been, never said thanks or any contact at all. Is this strange to you? I think it's bloody rude. Puts me off helping out again.

AIBU?

YANBU

Didn't dhe say thank you when she picked them up? That's a little odd....

And what did your brother say?

Yep. Bloody Rude. She should have said a simple thank you.

Did you see her when you dropped them home or they were picked up? That would be the time to discuss how they'd been, usually

It does seem rude and ungrateful but it could depend on why you had them.

If she was going to a medical appointment or some such she might not really be feeling well enough to reply right away, or not thinking clearly enough to realise she hasn't contacted you to say thanks.

Is SIL your DH's sis or your brother's wife?

Who picked up?

She might not have got text you sent. But she should still say thanks.

How did the kids get home? Did anything get mentioned when they left?

It is a bit strange but communicating by text often causes problems as they don't always get through.

It depends. Who organised it in the first place...and who picked the kids up, or was there when you dropped them off? Did that person say thank you then?

Your DH's sister or brother's wife? I don't expect my dsis's husband to say thank you. I don't mind my sis not saying anything straight away; if I help it's because they are busy or ill.

I'm on the fence though. One if my ils is attached to their phone and it would be rude for them not to fire a response back when they live in the virtual world.

DH's sister. She was at work. They were passed on to other relatives after my 'shift'.

YANBU that's bloody rude

Ok yes. Rude.

Good lord, I must piss people off all the time. I don't look at my phone from one day to the next.

Very rude.

Depends - did she thank you when she picked them up? Probably no need to keep repeating it if so.

Totally rude and ungrateful. It's not a case of looking at the one, she should have phoned you first to thank you.

Perhaps she didn't see your text, I know I"ve missed texts before

RUDE! She should have been texting YOU, not the other way round!

Ici RTFT!

It's rude. Was this a one-off babysitting request or are you providing her with regular free childcare?

I fail to see the relevance of whether she is DH's sister or brother's wife.

Given the circumstances as the children weren't returned to or picked up by a parent, then yes she should have thanked you. If she's busy or not well, is it possible she said to whoever had them after you (on the basis you will see or speak to them), "Will you thank Toast for me?" Then hasn't checked her phone.

Is she a single parent? If not Perhaps their father should have said thank you and it is him being rude for not acknowledging childcare for his kids?

Wowfudge, people are probably wanting to say that if she is brother's wife, brother should do the thanking (sexist attitude detection going on: mothers are not the only ones responsible for thanking relatives).

SIL is rude.