To think SIL is rude?

[Toastonmarmite]

Short version. Looked after SIL's 3 children last week for the whole afternoon - not a problem, they're delightful and love spending time with them! Later in the evening I sent her a text just to say we'd had fun etc, short and to the point. She didn't reply to ask how they had been, never said thanks or any contact at all. Is this strange to you? I think it's bloody rude. Puts me off helping out again.

AIBU?

I'm pretty awful at replying to texts. Could she have had her phone on silent, cooking tea, bathing DC or putting them to bed? I don't check my phone constantly and often miss texts during the evening rush.

Yes it is rude! You've done her a fairly large favour - whether or not you enjoyed it is neither here nor there! - and she cba to even text a quick "thanks for having them", since she didn't see you to say it to your face. No manners.

Clara there is also an assumption (and it's more in real life rather than mn or on this specific thread) that childcare is women's responsibility by default. The "done HER a favour" attitude, whereas in cases where there are two parents, both have equally benefitted.

X post with thumb. If she is dhs sister then yes it's up to her. To thank you or dh depending on who she is closer to.

Maybe she will do so when she finishes work. I don't look at my mobile when at work. Think you are being a bit too quick to judge her really

Maybe I need to get with the programme, but if SIL made the arrangement she should do the thanking unless her partner calls and does it for her, which if she is unwell he might do.

The issue I have with that is the "for her"
In this case it might be but in general children are not looked after for their mothers or so their mothers can work

Well without knowing your normal relationship with your sil who knows if yabu.

Maybe she didn't see the text? Is she normally rude?

What was the purpose of your text though?

Maybe she was going to text you herself later or next morning.
Then she read your text and she interprented as : oi have you forgotten to thank me?' (Grin)