AIBU to not want to start a relationship with a man with kids.

[Loveisintheair27]

Me and my sister were talking , I am a single mum and we were talking about the future and maybe moving on in to relationships.
I turned around and said I wouldn't date a man with kids, well not unless they had full custody.

Now I have many reasons for this , obviously if the relationship were to go far and moving in , kids etc
Then I really wouldn't feel comfy about him seeing my kids more than his own and also of we had kids then my daughter spending more time with there lil siblings that the guys children.

Now I have nothing against or care what others do as in who they date but this is a personal choice just wondering if anyone else has the same worries

My sister laughed at me and said I'm being ridiculous :)

I for one would always welcome step kids in to my home etc they would have as much of a home as my own and as much presents etc so that isn't the reason I think I may just struggle with the above and maybe discipline.

Now the reason I am over thinking this is because the guy I really like has a son.

YANBU. That's it. Good luck finding the man of your dreams.

I divorced DS1's father when DS1 was 4. I had a list of deal-breakers for any subsequent relationships, and children was one of them.

I knew that I couldn't love someone else's child as much or as fairly as I love my own, and that would make me a pretty crap SM. I didn't waver, wouldn't even go on a low key date with any man with kids, of whatever age. Ultimately remarried a childless bachelor with no serious relationships behind him and had another DS with him. YANBU

YANBU I was dating when ds was 1 and I just has such a complicated situation with him and his dad that I couldn't have coped with it on the other side of my relationship as well.

It is far simpler for your child to deal with one step parent. I also couldn't have dated someone who had walked out on their family like ds's dad did to us.

Oh and met dp when ds was 1.5 he had no kids but was ready to settle down and he loves ds so much. We have had one more and one on the way !