So, I'm not a regular poster but I need some advice. I have spoken (at length) to friends about this but I need some objective advice. Apologies if long.
DH and I have been married 2.5 years and have an 18 month old DD. DH works away 4 days a week. That's fine, I'm more than capable of coping alone. However, there have been a few incidents which have worried me . . . I should start this by saying that we are both quite fiery and do argue frequently, however, recently it has come to a head.
a) we had an incident when we argued and he ended up dragging me out of bed by the arm whilst he had our daughter in his arms.
b) I found out he was looking at porn online and contacting women. I know he never met up with any of these women but if I hadn't found the evidence then even he has said he's not sure . . .
This week he has said that I NAG too much (we currently live in a cottage supplied by his parents - the boiler is broken and has to be switched on manually whenever you want hot water and it's outside. It's been like this for 3 years and I have to go outside twice a day to do so - with a toddler). This is what I nag about. If I don't nag then nothing gets done. I am quite proactive and I see him as being quite lazy. He always makes excuses for not getting things done and not allowing me any time to have a lie-in or do anything I want to. I run a small business so any free time I have is spent on that. Even though he initially supported me starting the business he is now becoming resentful about paying for me and DD and constantly throws in my face the fact he supports us. He has also said that he will buy me a house to live in with DD as he thinks we should separate. But then he calls me and says he loves me and acts like a couple . . .
I am extremely confused.
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AIBU?
Pretty sure it's DH but desperate for some reassurance . . .
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greatscott81 · 29/10/2014 19:54
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