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AIBU?

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or is DH over this packet of biscuits?

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redviolin · 27/10/2014 11:59

I was at home alone last night, DH was out. I am 35 weeks pregnant and feeling a bit picky/faddy about food. Was craving biscuits, went to our corner shop and bought one of those Mc Vities "factory floor" packs where they put all the different types of biscuits in one big bag for 99p.

I watched TV and selected bits of the biscuits to eat: the jammy bit of the jammy dodgers, the outside of the bourbon creams. When the cookies didn't contain enough chocolate chips I'd discard one and eat another. I've done this all my life with cheap biscuits - mainly the night before my period when I'm feeling a bit low, but it's more of a few times a year thing - not a chronic habit to buy packs of things, eat part of them and throw the rest away.

Anyway, I was left with even more "bits" of biscuits, not really anything anyone can salvage, so I decide to throw them away.

DH got home and saw inside the bin (biscuit graveyard) and went mental at how wasteful I am and how I must have an eating disorder. I said I knew it looked like that but really I was just being a bit indulgent and wanted the variety and as it was a cheap pack I wasn't wasting money etc.

He has woken up this morning still pissed off about these bloody biscuits. DH grew up in another country during food rationing, so I understand where he is coming from, but surely he can give me a break at 35 weeks?

OP posts:

Marylou62 · 27/10/2014 12:27

I think Bourbon could be a fab girls name and Dodger if it's a boy.....My Dad grew up very poor and went to bed hungry...every night...we were made to eat every scrap on our plate...Sprouts!!...Yuk..luckily None of us have an eating disorder but I do understand where my Dad was/is coming from...I don't think its that big a deal but let him know you understand that it is a problem for him....next time hide the evidence better...

RiverTam · 27/10/2014 12:27

well, it is very wasteful and as you know your DH comes from a country with food rationing then I can't imagine why you thought he would think that was fine. My parents grew up with rationing and had zero tolerance of food waste which was annoying but understandable.

I can't imagine eating biscuits like that. It does sound most odd.

YABU.

Jolleigh · 27/10/2014 12:28

Are people really citing an eating disorder here?? I sometimes buy walnut whips and discard the walnut. I've discarded the walnut all my life because I don't want to eat that bit. This is the same but with biscuits.

OP - it's a pack of biscuits. I get that he doesn't like waste, many people don't. Just tell him next time you'll break off the bits you don't want and make crumb cake with it. Then have a chat about letting things go. Yes, it was wasteful. But it was also 99p

ApocalypseThen · 27/10/2014 12:28

Do not apologise to him. You didn't do anything wrong here, and it's not up to him to police everything you do. This has zero impact on him and he needs to cop on.

BauerTime · 27/10/2014 12:29

Bianca I agree, MN hysteria at its best!

An insult to people who struggle daily with actual eating disorders.

MindReader · 27/10/2014 12:29

"disgusting.... annoyed... shocked...demented... wasteful....very childish..."

OP, just imagine if you'd done something really awful...

GarlicGhoul · 27/10/2014 12:31

OK, I get that food rationing leaves lifelong scars. At my Mum's I quietly cut the mould off the bread crusts and eat the rest, because it's a big thing for her. BUT still sulking the next day is controlling behaviour, whether DH sees it that way or not. It's time he relaxed into the joy of plenty: it is a luxury to chuck part-eaten biscuits away and, fortunately, one you can afford :)

It's cheap as luxuries go! Good luck with your birth.

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redviolin · 27/10/2014 12:32

BauerTime he has noticed before, but I think maybe the bin has been fuller or he has been sharing the biscuits with me at the time and not noticed that I only like the bits of certain parts of them and he has hoovered up the rest.

I was just exhausted last night so tipped the remains into the bin and forgot that he would be cooking when he got home and opening the bin.

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RoganJosh · 27/10/2014 12:32

I would think it's worse to eat the rest when you didn't want them.
It's 99p. Less than a magazine, so seems like a perfectly reasonable treat.

ovaryhill · 27/10/2014 12:32

Don't you listen to them! You indulge yourself all you want, when little McVitie arrives you won't have a minute so enjoy!

MrsAtticus · 27/10/2014 12:32

Next time use the bits you don't want to make a cheesecake base

cloggal · 27/10/2014 12:32

Ah for fuck's sake, enjoy the biscuits. You're hardly smoking crack. If this is your worst habit your DH should come and live with me.

I'm tempted to suggest you buy another bag and eat them, throwing bits away passive-aggressively, just for sport.

Squirrelsmum · 27/10/2014 12:33

Don't worry OP in a few years you'll have kids to hide the evidence for you ;)

You bought a packet of biscuits and ate the bits you wanted, can't see anything wrong with that. Coming from a mindful eating point of view forcing yourself to eat food you didn't want speaks of bigger issues than discarding it.

mumeeee · 27/10/2014 12:33

I'm with your DH it is wasteful and I would have been very annoyed with my DDs if they did this when they were younger, However it is a bit OTT to still be annoyed the next morning.

WorraLiberty · 27/10/2014 12:34

I think the bin is the best place for half eaten biscuits.

mommy2ash · 27/10/2014 12:37

it's a bit much to still be in a strop, I don't think you have an eating disorder but something like that would really annoy me

iseenodust · 27/10/2014 12:39

YANBU Unreasonable would have been scoff the lot & then made him listen to you moan about how unwell you felt. In the scheme of things, some people being a bit sanctimonious on here.

ovaryhill · 27/10/2014 12:40

You can buy jars of pre chewed lotus biscuits apparently......

Ludways · 27/10/2014 12:40

I'm with Bianca.

You threw out about 30p of crumbs, I Hoover more than that out of my carpet every week!

Downamongtherednecks · 27/10/2014 12:41

Well said, Bianca. OP you are entitled to throw away 50p's worth of chewed biscuits if you feel like it. You don't need your DH's or MN's permission. Serve him the broken bits on a dinner plate tonight if he's that bothered. In my house one of the dogs would have taken it out of the bin, no doubt invoking MN disapproval too Enjoy your biscuits, and your pregnancy, OP.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 27/10/2014 12:42

OP is getting a bad time here, I assume no one has a slightly wasteful habit and is totally perfect.

If you think thats bad then you should never watch my DD eat a sausage roll.

ElephantsNeverForgive · 27/10/2014 12:42

DH would have been outraged, he'd have happily hoovered up all part biscuits.

However, you are an adult and you are allowed your totally harmless foibles.

squoosh · 27/10/2014 12:44

I threw out half an M&S bannoffee cheesecake last week, it just wasn't very nice.

wonderingsoul · 27/10/2014 12:46

op ynbu. your oh is.

this thread is unreal.

madness.

its a 99p pack of biccies.....

so fucking what!

Downamongtherednecks · 27/10/2014 12:47

squoosh How DARE you? Don't you know there are starving children etc etc? You should have forced yourself to eat something you didn't want and didn't like. That's not wasteful at all

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