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or is DH over this packet of biscuits?

332 replies

redviolin · 27/10/2014 11:59

I was at home alone last night, DH was out. I am 35 weeks pregnant and feeling a bit picky/faddy about food. Was craving biscuits, went to our corner shop and bought one of those Mc Vities "factory floor" packs where they put all the different types of biscuits in one big bag for 99p.

I watched TV and selected bits of the biscuits to eat: the jammy bit of the jammy dodgers, the outside of the bourbon creams. When the cookies didn't contain enough chocolate chips I'd discard one and eat another. I've done this all my life with cheap biscuits - mainly the night before my period when I'm feeling a bit low, but it's more of a few times a year thing - not a chronic habit to buy packs of things, eat part of them and throw the rest away.

Anyway, I was left with even more "bits" of biscuits, not really anything anyone can salvage, so I decide to throw them away.

DH got home and saw inside the bin (biscuit graveyard) and went mental at how wasteful I am and how I must have an eating disorder. I said I knew it looked like that but really I was just being a bit indulgent and wanted the variety and as it was a cheap pack I wasn't wasting money etc.

He has woken up this morning still pissed off about these bloody biscuits. DH grew up in another country during food rationing, so I understand where he is coming from, but surely he can give me a break at 35 weeks?

OP posts:
earplugsahoy · 27/10/2014 12:16

At 35 weeks pregnant I would not say you are unreasonable for anything.

However; why didn't you leave them on the side in case dh wanted what was left?

Itsfab · 27/10/2014 12:17

You sound precious to use pregnancy as an excuse to carry on doing something you have always done. Spending 99p and throwing most away is more wasteful than spending £1.75 on a packet where you eat them all.

Original poster
redviolin · 27/10/2014 12:18

ovaryhill Grin Grin

OP posts:
sunbathe · 27/10/2014 12:18

I can't believe anyone would give you grief over some waste from a 99p pack of biscuits.

Jackie0 · 27/10/2014 12:18

He was probably quite shocked , I am too.

monostar · 27/10/2014 12:18

*True, but unless it's going to make a difference to the OP's budget, I think here DH is being a bit of an arse.

Especially to still be sulking about it this morning.*

I don't think DH is still sulking because that particular incident but bigger picture aka possibility of this repeating, happening with more expensive things, food in general etc.
It is obvious that wasting upsetting him deeply...I totally understand.

Legionofboom · 27/10/2014 12:19

I think you were very wasteful and if your DH grew up with rationing and food shortages I can totally understand why he would be so annoyed.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 27/10/2014 12:19

If life gives you broken biscuits - make cheesecake...

squoosh · 27/10/2014 12:19

'And you can't make a biscuit cake out of half nibbled biscuits. That's disgusting.'

The saliva on the half chewed biscuits probably acts as a binding agent.

Original poster
redviolin · 27/10/2014 12:19

Itsfab if it's obviously hormonally related (like I do it the night before my period) then surely doing it while in late pregnancy is also hormonally related? Pregnancy's not an excuse, I just tend to have a bit of a need to comfort eat when my hormones are up.

That's quite a common thing for women!

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MindReader · 27/10/2014 12:20

Flips sake!!!

OP, you failed to eat every crumb of a 99p pack of biscuits, so you 'wasted' some.
You are heavily pregnant.

You don't have to apologise to ANYONE!

Legionofboom · 27/10/2014 12:20

And I agree with Itsfab that if this is something you have always done then trying to justify it with pregnancy is a bit much.

Original poster
redviolin · 27/10/2014 12:21

I would never buy anything more expensive than 99p and only eat the bits I want and throw the rest away. In 30 plus years that has never happened!

OP posts:
lifesentence · 27/10/2014 12:23

He is being unreasonable being in a strop over something so trivial. So what if it's wasteful? It would be wasteful to eat the parts of biscuits you don't want, surely, as who is honestly going to be helped by you eating excess unwanted empty calories?

BiancaDelRio · 27/10/2014 12:23

Let me get this straight.

Your DH is in a prolonged huff with you over a pack of 99p biscuits? And MN is "shocked" and thinks you have an eating disorder.

Give me strength Hmm .

Your DH is a controlling and petty wanker. Next time leave the crumbs and broken bits inside his shoes.

squoosh · 27/10/2014 12:24

Grin Bianca.

Legionofboom · 27/10/2014 12:24

Pregnancy's not an excuse

Really? Because in your OP you said

I understand where he is coming from, but surely he can give me a break at 35 weeks?

It sounds like you understand that it was wasteful but you think it's ok because you are 35 weeks pregnant.

whatsthatcomingoverthehill · 27/10/2014 12:25

I doubt it's the cost of the wastage that is the issue but the principle. If it was 'just' a pregnancy thing then it's a bit different (I know someone who when pregnant used to get pots of feta and olives, but only ate the feta, apparently a packet of feta on its own was different...). But you do it regularly. And it does sound a bit of a disgusting habit to be fair.

MerryMarigold · 27/10/2014 12:25

so I buy these multipacks and I just pick what I want to eat.

I understand the concept of that, but not nibbling bits and chucking the rest away. You could have a Jammy Dodger, a Bourbon, a Custard Cream. The nibbling and throwing is very bizarre. Wasteful at best and I won't say what at worst. It is not because you are pg, you do it once a month with hormones too. I worry about you in the menopause!

Momagain1 · 27/10/2014 12:25

DHs sulking may be related to impending fatherhood and normal new father fears of providing being multiplied by the rationing and food stress in his childhood. It would be unreasoable for most of our DHs to get wound up over 40p worth of biscuit crumbs, but he is wired differently, and this could easily become a recurring argument through your parenting years.

So maybe it is a habit you should ddrop?
Or be frugal and use those crumbs for a cake base, as suggested above. You can fancy up a bread pudding with them, sub for part of the sugar. Or a trifle. Or top ice cream with them.
Or feed the birds.
Or make damn sure you bury the half empty bag deep in the bin, wrapped up so it wont distress him.

Don't be surprised if he doesnt begin wanting to pursue a lot of old fashioned, frugal, make do and mend habits. Especially food related.

monostar · 27/10/2014 12:25

Apologies to your hubby..it wasn't nice thing to do, especially knowing his past and issues he has with this...I am sure all will be good :)

kirsten123 · 27/10/2014 12:26

YABU - get something MUCH more delicious next time - like chocolate cheesecake. Or maybe chips with tons of vinegar and sauce.

Crap biscuits - leave the leftovers out for the birds/rats/foxes.:-)

BauerTime · 27/10/2014 12:26

If its something you have always done then why has he not noticed before now? Didn't you know him before you got pregnant and had periods monthly? Or do you usually do it in secret?

I cant imagine calling out a 35week pregnant woman on something like that tbh. Regardless of the wastefulness.

MerryMarigold · 27/10/2014 12:26

Jacob is a nice name for a boy Wink

How about Jacob Fox?

WorraLiberty · 27/10/2014 12:26

Well put Bianca Grin

I think of tons of threads that in my mind, make me think the OP has an eating disorder but this isn't one of them.