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AIBU?

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or is DH over this packet of biscuits?

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redviolin · 27/10/2014 11:59

I was at home alone last night, DH was out. I am 35 weeks pregnant and feeling a bit picky/faddy about food. Was craving biscuits, went to our corner shop and bought one of those Mc Vities "factory floor" packs where they put all the different types of biscuits in one big bag for 99p.

I watched TV and selected bits of the biscuits to eat: the jammy bit of the jammy dodgers, the outside of the bourbon creams. When the cookies didn't contain enough chocolate chips I'd discard one and eat another. I've done this all my life with cheap biscuits - mainly the night before my period when I'm feeling a bit low, but it's more of a few times a year thing - not a chronic habit to buy packs of things, eat part of them and throw the rest away.

Anyway, I was left with even more "bits" of biscuits, not really anything anyone can salvage, so I decide to throw them away.

DH got home and saw inside the bin (biscuit graveyard) and went mental at how wasteful I am and how I must have an eating disorder. I said I knew it looked like that but really I was just being a bit indulgent and wanted the variety and as it was a cheap pack I wasn't wasting money etc.

He has woken up this morning still pissed off about these bloody biscuits. DH grew up in another country during food rationing, so I understand where he is coming from, but surely he can give me a break at 35 weeks?

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FamiliesShareGerms · 27/10/2014 19:34

Where can I get a pack of these factory floor biscuits??

Shlep · 27/10/2014 19:38

He reacted OTT, but tbh, he had an understandable reason for why he reacted OTT. I don't think I've been like that with DP although I would say I nag my DC perhaps a bit too much- and it should be my problem, not theirs, of course- but it's very, very hard to just leave behind two decades or so of seeing food as something limited and finite, and to get away from a childhood of being taught never to waste the food you had.

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut · 27/10/2014 19:42

I too want to buy a packet of 99p biscuits. I am not even slightly pregnant or pre-menstrual either.

For the sake of the hysterics not coming on here to shriek at me for wastage, telling me I'm disgusting and wasteful and have an eating disorder, and telling what I should and shouldn't do like they're my fucking mum fgs, I'm going to off to post the bits I don't want to anyone who does want them. This way, no food will be wasted, though electricity, petrol, money, plastic packaging and trees will.

I will take the bourbon middle off your hands, redviolin, and send you a few be-smeared Bourbon top-halfs if you like.

My address is
1 Biscuit Villainess
Picky About Manky Bits Lane
Dontgiveafuckshire.
YANBU

BasketzatDawn · 27/10/2014 19:46

He is being U at being still pissed off after a sleep - but I'd never have chucked the biscuits away either. In future you need to work harder at hiding the evidence.

BasketzatDawn · 27/10/2014 19:48

Though I wish the word 'factory floor' wasn't being used so profligately. It almost puts me off said biccies.

namioexchangio · 27/10/2014 19:56

How often does your DH check the bin and criticise you for its contents? This is the bit that worries me the most. Does he tell you how to live other parts of your life too, like what you wear, and when you can go out? Is it wasteful to buy new clothes or spend money going out with friends? Seriously he may need a bit of help to adjust for his wartime childhood or your life could become miserable.

PerpendicularVincenzo · 27/10/2014 20:01

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redviolin · 27/10/2014 20:06

namioexchangio DH doesn't check the bin often, it's just that he was cooking after I got home last night and was using the bin. The fact he doesn't check the bin is why he probably hasn't found them as frequently as he would have done in the past.

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Mintyy · 27/10/2014 20:07

I think the huge number of over reactions on this thread are from the people who disagree with those who've said that op is being u.

There is no screeching, preaching, wailing, teeth-gnashing or hand-wringing afaics.

Just some people saying that on balance they think op is being u, although its no biggie. And that's what aibu is for, is it not?

Mintyy · 27/10/2014 20:08

The post by TheBatteriesHaveRunOut just a few up/down from mine being a perfect example.

Mintyy · 27/10/2014 20:10

Has there really been abuse towards op on this thread? Really??

I'll have to go back and re-read.

I thought it was 99% yanbu, 1% yabu.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 27/10/2014 20:11

Yy mintyy

cloggal · 27/10/2014 20:12

I don't think there's been any abuse minty, and I'm firmly in the YANBU, some of these comments are way ott camp.

QuillPen · 27/10/2014 20:16

NickiFury that's the best bit! Glad you eat it :)

Freakish Fancies are the best thing ever and make me love this time of year!

juneybean · 27/10/2014 20:19

I'm pretty wasteful and most of the time I annoy myself with it but if I decide to bin something half eaten I like to think I've had 99p worth or whatever it cost then I don't feel so bad about the waste.

Summerisle1 · 27/10/2014 20:21

Got to say that people who fiddle about with their food is a bit of a bugbear of mine. But then it was your food, they did only cost 99p and I didn't have to watch you dissect a bag of biscuits.

It is kind of wasteful but actually, really not the crime of the century. On balance, I'd say your DH's response was somewhat histrionic.

monostar · 27/10/2014 21:01

being criticized by sweary, lavatorial brigade makes me feel soooo good actually

knittingdad · 27/10/2014 21:11

This feels like one of those seemingly minor things that are symbolic of a more fundamental difference. Your behaviour obviously makes sense to you, but speaking for myself, I do not understand it at all. That sort of casual waste simply seems immoral to me.

So although it is certainly ridiculous for your DH to still be annoyed about a 99p pack of biscuits, I can understand it. You guys need to talk about this so that you can understand each other. Don't expect to be able to convince each other, but just to understand.

Laquitar · 27/10/2014 21:11

What do you do with toddlers then?

Do you pick up the spaghetti and half eaten carrots from the floor or even from the park and turn it into a pie or a stir fry?
Dont try BLW OP.

Anyway i reckon 15yr in prison and 100 lashings. Huge crime.

ScaryZ · 27/10/2014 21:15

It started off bonkers, Mintyy.

The first dozen posts accused her of having an eating disorder, among other things (rank, disgusting, mad etc)

Then the pendulum swung, as aibu threads are wont to do.

ScaryZ · 27/10/2014 21:15

Let's add immoral to the list

Altinkum · 27/10/2014 21:23

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Mintyy · 27/10/2014 21:23

Just re-read start of thread and yanbus were def in the majority.

knittingdad · 27/10/2014 21:25

While I'm here I also reckon illogical would fit the bill...

Toddlers are an obvious exception to many rules.

SplatTheScaryCat · 27/10/2014 21:52

a lot of people agreed with her DH that she was wasteful though.

yes, quite a few agreed that her DH was OTT, but then they followed it up with how wasteful it was...etc

hence my initial post.

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