To want my dd to move out of her uni house following her behaviour?

[DirtyG]

I've heard stories about my DD sleeping around, and with her being away at university during the week I can't keep tabs on this. I have already moved her from the top floor of the house to the room beside mine following a wild party she hosted without our permission and spoke to her about her behaviour but it hasn't seemed to have worked. She's a bit of a party girl having just returned home from Ibiza, but I can't allow her behaving like she's on holidays to continue in her uni town where I'm sure she's getting a reputation for herself. She's 20 and I feel like time is running out for us to fix this. Am I being unreasonable for wanting her to move back home or should I let her learn from her own mistakes?

Is this real?

Anyway, like Jessie, I can testify that it's quite possible to have plenty of fun at university, discovering your sexuality, still come out with a good degree (or two), and go on to a successful career and stable relationship.

If you don't like the thought of your daughter's sex life, for god's sake stop hovering over her so you don't hear about it. But don't try to impose your 1950s morals on her... That's what will make her feel shit about herself.

It's half term. Go and get some fresh air.

ItsAllJollyGood

^Reverse aibu?

No mother would actually say or truly feel all this.^

Sadly, mine would. I'm 34 and my mother still feels it's ok to assert that my sister and I should live by her views on what is appropriate rather than our own. If my mum knew I'd slept with more than 2 men she would hit the roof even now. If she had known about me having sex at university she would have threatened to bring me home too. It's her comments about divorce that mean hardly anyone in my family knows my husband left me. I've grown up with no good sense of what people actually think about things and no power not to care about it!

OP if you are real, don't do this to your daughter. Let her know you care but don't judge or attempt to control.

YABU. Completely.

My 20 year old friend started uni this year. There are rumours that she sleeps around and has slept with three different lads in as many weeks. She hasn't. She is still a virgin and has never so much as kissed a guy.

Don't believe everything you hear.

To be honest even if it was true and she was sleeping with every tom Dick and harry she is an adult and it is her choice.

I have an almost 22yr old Ds who spent the summer shagging around greece, he still lives at home while at uni and although this curtails him a bit he is still having a wild old time. I would prefer him to calm it down a bit and we discuss where he is heading frequently, sometimes amicably sometimes ending in the inevitable 'i am an adult now I am having fun, I am supposed to be having fun and I will settle down and grow up when I am ready' I just shrug, make sure he has condoms , knows the health risk of alcohol and unsafe sex, and is respectful, its all I can do.

Leave the poor girl alone, there's nothing wrong with having sex. She's an adult. It's her choice.

Your DD needs a lobotomy to have her urges controlled before she goes hysterical from too much sex. Get in touch with the 1950s, they should be able to help.

Hahaha

I'm only four years older than your DD and will happily tell you to butt out. I've been in a relationship with DP for two years and I was in a relationship for three years from the ages of 17 - 20, but the time inbetween my ex and my current DP was spent almost exclusively on no strings attached hook ups. It was great! No muss, no fuss. Leave your DD to do what she wants, she's a grown adult.

Why does someone need to be rebelling or have low self esteem to be sleeping around? How about they like sex but don't have anyone they want a relationship with?
Sex is nice, it's fun and can be enjoyed with different people without being a reaction to anything other then feeling the urge. No wonder women are still so oppressed, we are oppressing ourselves with these attitudes!

If it's a reverse - 20 year old, your mother is being extremely unreasonable.

However, don't cut off your nose to spite your face. If you're sleeping around (or even if you're not) be careful and look after yourself. Just becuase your mum can't control what you do, doesn't mean that doing everything you want without thought won't have consequences.

If this is a reverse, put your mother on some sort of limited view Facebook thing, and any telltale relatives too!

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