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To feel relieved that we withdrew our offer?

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 16:21

Just breathed a huge sign of relief as we have withdrawn an offer we put in for 'our dream home', which on the 3rd viewing didn't measure up. We both had cold shivers as we very nearly did not view a 3rd time. We very nearly proceeded!

Have any of you regretted a little too late after having moved to your own 'dream home'?

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Pico2 · 26/10/2014 16:26

We withdrew an offer when we drove past about a month later and the neighbours still had a mattress in their front garden. I assumed it was out for the council to pick up, but concluded that it wasn't and didn't want to choose dodgy neighbours.

isitsnowingyet · 26/10/2014 16:31

Boy -I bet the sellers were 'relieved' too!! Why did you put an offer in if you weren't sure?

Sorry, but looking at the situation from the point of view of the sellers/vendors - that must have been extremely annoying for them.

Moghedien · 26/10/2014 16:33

Exactly, isits. OP, you should have continued with a huge life changing purchase even if you weren't sure. Hmm

LineRunner · 26/10/2014 16:35

If I were selling I would seriously pay to have a neighbour's crappy mattress taken away.

Sorry, tangential.

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McBear · 26/10/2014 16:38

What was it that put you off that you'd missed on the other viewings?

avocadotoast · 26/10/2014 16:44

We went to look at a house that had been fully renovated (seller had bought it at auction to do up). Lovely little house, massive garden, backed onto the local primary school. I would've been sold... Except the next door neighbours had a weather-beaten sofa and a punchbag in their back garden. So glad we never put an offer in!

Pipbin · 26/10/2014 16:48

My next-door neighbour is delightful.
But last year she had a sofa in her front garden for nearly a month because the council kept failing to pick it up when she had paid for them to do so.
Having a crappy front garden isn't always indicative of being a crappy person.

AimlesslyPurposeful · 26/10/2014 16:54

What was it about the third visit that put you off that didn't happen on the first or second?

PiperIsOrange · 26/10/2014 17:25

Was the offer accepted.

Was the for sale sigh updated to Subject to contract.

SpidersDontWashTheirHands · 26/10/2014 17:30

Why did you put an offer in before your third visit?

Bowlersarm · 26/10/2014 17:32

We regret a house we didn't go ahead with, ten years later.

Very happy in our house now, but wish we'd gone with the original.

hiccupgirl · 26/10/2014 19:01

We pulled out of a house that I thought was our dream house until we got the survey back which had lots of bits and pieces. I have never regretted it and I love the house we bought instead.

Yes it's a pain for the sellers but there's no point continuing if you really don't want the house now.

Piccarcas · 26/10/2014 19:28

OMG, we are in the process of selling our house. Please, please please don't make it be us who get that call tomorrow. Shock

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 19:50

isit - When I tell you some back story perhaps you wont be as harsh. We thought we were really sure first two visits. It was really strange. During the 3rd visit I found myself in one of the rooms by myself and a wave of incredible loneliness washed over me. Can't explain it other than I could have cried. When me and hubby chatted later he also said the house did not hold the same appeal and he could not explain it either.

Also the sellers had told a couple of fibs which shook our trust in them.

In addition, from day one we had said we would not sell ours unless we were able to buy the house of our dreams - basically only if our offer was accepted would we accept the offer on ours. We also said we were not in a position to increase our offer which was in a couple of thousand of the guide price. We played no games, nothing, just a sensible and fair price from day one.

However, during 3rd visit the sellers said they did not need to sell for them to buy their next home and could 'sit on it' although they would like us to have it.

At the end of the visit DH asked if we could summarise - they would not say if they accepted our offer and advised we contact the estate agents and accept the offer on our house and the 'process could proceed'. It was clear to me and DH that they were setting us up to play us.

They wanted more than we could afford. I think the manipulation was also part of why the house lost its appeal.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 19:54

Cant explain it Glitters - if someone had offered me a bet that we would change our minds on 3rd visit I would have thought id win.

To be honest I was happy to proceed after 2nd visit and it was DH who insisted on 3rd final visit before we accepted offer on ours.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 19:57

McBear - it was not anything we missed structural, it was more an ambience thing. Also the fact they were wanting more than our offer and their fibs sealed our reservations.

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ihatethecold · 26/10/2014 19:57

These things happen. Better to know now then later.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 19:59

Piper - the seller never accepted our offer after the estate agents had led us to believe they were very happy with it. We were in a catch 22 as we did not want to accept the offer on ours until our offer was accepted.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 20:01

Spider we were so sure after 1st and 2nd visit. Then when someone put an acceptable offer in on ours DH said 'lets go back just to make sure'. Our offer had not been accepted and we had not accepted any offer on ours.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 20:01

Thats a shame Bowler and 10 years is a long time to hold a regret.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 20:04

Thanks for sharing Hiccup. Yes you need to be sure. And we thought we were. As soon as doubts crept in we told the estate agents to withdraw our offer (although it had not been accepted anyway).

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 20:05

Piccarcas - I have everything crossed for you.

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Cheby · 26/10/2014 20:12

Opposite happened to us last week. Found our perfect house. Offered, negotiated, offer accepted. Mortgage approved, survey booked and paid for, solicitor engaged. The the vendors withdrew their house from sale. Some bullshit reason that didnt stack up with what they had previously told us about their family situation, and it also turned out that they had never bothered to engage a solicitor themselves, in the fortnight all of this took. Looking back we don't think they were ever serious about selling. We are gutted.

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MistyMistletoe · 26/10/2014 20:18

So sorry to hear that Cheby - you must be gutted :( I hope you find your perfect home soon!

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