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to be quite creeped out by this facebook message?

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RayaCarmen · 25/10/2014 23:36

A guy I went to school with has just sent me a message saying -

I was just looking through your photos, sorry because that probably sounds creepy, school seems like such a long time ago.

Background story. I fancied this guy for 2 years at school, we kissed and had a 2 week long relationship.

I no longer fancy him in the slightest. However he does have a girlfriend that he has been with for around 3 years and they seem happy.

He hasn't complimented me, just said he was looking through my photos.

Is that weird?

I look at peoples photos on fb, but I don't tell them that.

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Waltermittythesequel · 25/10/2014 23:37

Doesn't sound weird, just honest!

ArabellaTarantella · 25/10/2014 23:38

Nope, I don't think it's weird.

Littlefish · 25/10/2014 23:38

Not weird in the least. It's what facebook is for.

JavaSparrow · 25/10/2014 23:40

Sounds like someone admitting to normal fb behaviour.

Gruntfuttock · 25/10/2014 23:41

Honestly, people seem to be "creeped out" by nothing lately. It's getting ridiculous. Lighten up a bit for goodness' sake. Not everything is creepy.

PurpleSwift · 25/10/2014 23:42

Sounds like he's feeling nostalgic. Maybe drunk.
I don't think it's weird. Not from that one message anyway.

SoapForSoreEyes · 25/10/2014 23:42

I think I wouod feel weird if someone from my past suddenly messaged me like that, but I don't think it is creepy, I think it is fairly normal FB behaviour, I can't imagine it means anything oath than exactly what he said, he was looking at your photos.

Do you want to get back in contact with him? If so, reply. If not, ignore.

PeppermintInfusion · 25/10/2014 23:43

He's maybe reminiscing, had a few drinks and just worded it wrong?

GingerCuddleMonster · 25/10/2014 23:44

depends is he your friend on facebook if not tighten up your security, if he is your friend sounds Luke he's just starting a conversation in a casual way. if you reply you may find he has something more to say, maybe he wants a ear to talk to about something.

Mascaramascara1 · 25/10/2014 23:45

If he'd just messaged you 'i'm looking through your photos' I can imagine you'd be thinking 'WTF?'

But he didn't - he made a comment about school being a long time ago. He's just reminiscing or maybe trying to start a conversation.

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RayaCarmen · 25/10/2014 23:45

We haven't spoken in around 10 years.

I barely even spoke to him when he was my "boyfriend". I used to be ridiculously shy.

We weren't even friends at school, or hung out with the same people.

So there's not really much to reminisce about...

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smellycandles · 25/10/2014 23:47

Get a grip!

LadyLuck10 · 25/10/2014 23:49

If this creeps you out then you are very sheltered. No need overanalysing something so trivial.

OldLadyKnowsBeelzebub · 25/10/2014 23:49

I got a message from a man I was at school with 40 years ago a couple of weeks ago, we never dated (though he tried lol!) but I was already aware he was FB friends with my younger sister so I wasn't horrified. We chatted by Pm briefly - he's been married 25 years with dc, dgc and even dggc!, I'm married 30 years with dc and dgc. We're both happy, and wished each other well, no further comms. As has been said, it's what FB's for, at least in part. :)

peasandlove · 25/10/2014 23:51

maybe you should make your photos private if it creeps you out people you know are looking at them. I bet there are people you don't know looking too.

StrattersFeeear · 25/10/2014 23:52

It's quite sweet, sounds more like a clumsy attempt to open a dialogue.

Seriously, I don't understand why you're creeped out, it's not like he's told you he's been having a fun time with your photos and his wank mitten.

InvasionOfTheBodyShatners · 25/10/2014 23:53

Sounds fine, and not creepy. He doesn't sound like he's particularly interested in you or the brief time you knew each other, he's just letting you know he looked at your photos and it made him think of his school days.

Hullygully · 25/10/2014 23:56

a1

psycho killer
qu'est que c'est

Original poster
RayaCarmen · 26/10/2014 00:36

Get a grip!

Geez. No need to get so wound up about it.

I don't think I should used the phrase "creeped out", because I actually just find it a little odd.

I think you reminisce about school days with the people you were friends at school with. I don't think we even had one class together.

Our "relationship" lasted 2 weeks and we saw each other once.

IWBU to use that phrase. I find it even odder how wound up people can get over something a stranger posted that wasn't offensive, racist or sexist.

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WorraLiberty · 26/10/2014 00:39

It's not something that would creep me out

All he's done is give you a vague compliment

Perfectlypurple · 26/10/2014 00:43

Is he on your friends list?

VerityWaves · 26/10/2014 00:45

Wow
Not creepy at all.

smellycandles · 26/10/2014 00:46

'No need to get so wound up about it'

Take some of your own advice OP!

EatDereksCorpse · 26/10/2014 00:47

I got a fb message from some randomer asking if I would like my feet worshipped

Now that's creepy

BertieBotts · 26/10/2014 00:50

Hmmm, I did originally think a bit inappropriate, but no I think it's probably just that he was interested and wanted to get back in touch. I've got in touch with old friends who I've found online, not because I fancied them, just because I missed them and thought "Hey! It's X!" and decided to add them.

More normal thing to do though would be to send a friend request, not a random message. TBH I would be slightly suspicious that he's still holding a candle for you, but I wouldn't worry too much about it. Treat it at face value, if that happened to come up, then I would block and ignore.