to be quite creeped out by this facebook message?

[RayaCarmen]

A guy I went to school with has just sent me a message saying -

I was just looking through your photos, sorry because that probably sounds creepy, school seems like such a long time ago.

Background story. I fancied this guy for 2 years at school, we kissed and had a 2 week long relationship.

I no longer fancy him in the slightest. However he does have a girlfriend that he has been with for around 3 years and they seem happy.

He hasn't complimented me, just said he was looking through my photos.

Is that weird?

I look at peoples photos on fb, but I don't tell them that.

I think it only seems creepy because he went out of his way to mention that it was creepy, he planted the seed, the message he sent if you remove the creepy part just sounds like a nostalgic "hay, it's been a while, how're you?"

The whole concept of FB is creepy. But everyone checks out old school friends photos. Most don't admit it their FB stalking granted...

I have looked through old classmates photos and even dared to send a message to one early on in my FB experience commenting that I was so glad to see they had realised their childhood dream (the photos showed this quite obviously) I got a message back "sorry, remind me where I knew you from? Can't place you at all?" I since that mortifying experience no longer own up. He'll soon learn. Just lurk - people find it less creepy

Interestingly, it's been 10 years since I was having angstful relationships with and crushes on people on a regular basis, and I've seen two or three separate "exes" (not really exes, but old flames if that makes sense) pop up on friends' feeds all of a sudden recently. I think 10 years is just probably a period of time when people stop giving a shit about whether someone they vaguely had feelings for a decade ago sees something they like or post or share, and relaxes their settings or stops consciously avoiding you. I wasn't on facebook 10 years ago, so in fact didn't even know that these people had profiles, as by the time I had one, I would have been avoiding them madly myself. I got a bit of a "Holy shit, I remember that name!" jolty feeling when I saw them but I didn't immediately go and check out their pics etc that comes later when DH is out and I'm lonely One is a massive hipster now - I would expect no less - and the other is far less dreamy than I remember him being, although his little sister is now a giant teenager.

ONe of the best things about Facebook is that it enables you to make contact with people you haven't seen or even thought about in decades. Of course, that's also one of the worst things about it.
I't most likely that this person was just having a brief nostalgia spell and his message to you means no more and no less than 'Hello, I remember you, and wish you well' and that will be the end of it. Particularly if you and he are both over 30 ie it wa long time ago that you knew each other.
THe older you get, the more it becomes both quite nice and no big deal to make passing contact with people you knew a long time back.

It isn't in the least bit weird to do it, isn't stalking that what Facebook is for? Not sure I would admit to it though!

Do you think he could have accidentally clicked like or something, or thought you'd be able to tell so decided to message and 'own up'?

I don't think it's weird he was looking, but not sure why he'd bother messaging to say so!

Get a grip FFS