To have given these kids on the bus a real bollocking?

[Cundtbake]

I'm fuming.

DS and I were on the bus at around half 3 when all the school kids were coming home. The young teens in question were from a school near me and I'm considering also phoning the school and informing them of what happened today.

When we got on the bus these kids were standing up in the buggy area. DS and I sat down near them and another girl, also from the school, boarded the bus. Said girl had Down's syndrome.

The group burst out laughing when she walked past. One of them loudly queried to her friend why she was getting the bus on her own and her mum hadn't picked her up. Another said 'Eugh I didn't know she was on the bus don't let her touch me'. It was a short bus journey but there were continuous glances and giggles and disgusted looks.

We all got off at the same stop and as the girl got off the bus she brushed past someone in the group who proceeded to screech loudly and make disgusted noises.

I lost it and shouted at them all how disgusted I was at their behaviour. I asked if their parents would be proud of them and how dare they treat a human being like that etc etc. I didn't say anything really rude but I was shouting and now I'm wondering if I was OTT as they are someone else's children but I was so upset by what I saw.

Was I being unreasonable? And would it be unreasonable of me to also report to their school?

Yes, I have also been invited into schools to look through photographs and identify offenders.

It's a good thing to do, for the sake of the girl who is being bullied, and also for the offenders, so the school can step on this kind of behaviour quickly.

Feckitall, so you should be she sounds fantastic

So OP YANBU..if the little 'darlings' can be identified and dealt with they may not be those lads in a few years time!

Feckit me and your DD would get on well, I'm 23

Rest assured I won't be letting this go. I guess the problem these days is people are so worried to berate children/teenagers as there are a lot of parents now who would really resent someone else telling their kids off regardless of what they were doing.

If they are old enough to be unaccompanied they are old enough to be responsible for their own behaviour.

cundtbake, I'm 42 and if I was your mum I would be very proud of you

We really need a 'congratulate me, I'm fab' topic don't we?

Well done you! The saying 'it takes a village to raise a child' comes to mind... all adults need to educate/reprimand kids when needs be. Definitely contact the school too - the girl mustn't continue to suffer that awful behaviour.

You would not be unreasonable to report them at all. How rude and ignorant.

nerf, have you had a bad day?

No, not at all. Just slightly bored by the constant AIBU to have ....made a huge donation to charity....stood up for a disabled person.....given a quid to a homeless person....
Genuinely, we need a feel good topic.

I would definitely call the school. Thought this kind of thing had been stamped out a bit more since I was that age and some little bastards used to follow the 'special needs kids' about mocking them (and anyone who stood up for them). It's great that you told them off but the school need to back you up and make sure they are actually punished or they will just brush it off as 'shouty lady off the bus', hopefully school can contact parents and point out that it is bullying and could get them into serious trouble (would have thought bus had a duty of care too, to disabled passengers in preventing harassment, so maybe email bus company?)

Well done OP - I would have done the same.

I agree with Nerf. Clearly the OP is so far from being unreasonable as to stretch credibility by asking if she did anything wrong.

Nerf if it pisses you off that much you could always go and look at the daily mail website, bound to be something totally depressing and not very nice on there to cheer you up.

Oh yeah that's a totally rational and sensible comment scratch.

I think it's a fair aibu.

challenging a bunch of lairy teenagers can be scary. I am a hard nosed old bint with some experience of young people, and do it all the time, but lots of people think they might get thumped if they interfere.

Yanbu. My dn has downs and the thought that people may treat him like this saddens me do much. I hope your words have made them rethink their disgusting actions and remarks.

That's appalling behaviour, well done you for speaking up (loudly)
Definitely put it in writing to the Head, number of bus, time of journey, how many kids were nasty to the poor DS girl, exactly what they did, exactly what they said, where the kids got off etc.

I don't think you were being unreasonable AT ALL, and this is coming from a parent of two school aged children.
Good on you for putting them in their place. If either of my two had behaved like that I would have been MORTIFIED.

YANBU OP

And YANBU Nerf

YANBU.

I've done similar when a group of teens were making fun of a man with clear learning disabilities. Too old to be in school and not in uniform but I did give them a piece of my mind.

Report it to the school O.P. That is boardering on hate crime.